shift in perception

Peace of mind only happens in the unknown. Rhonda Britten

I heard Rhonda say this the other night and it really stuck with me. If you think about it, you can’t have peace of mind when you’re stuck in what you know. When you are struggling with fear or uncertainty you are stuck in a story you have created. You have to break out of that to find peace. Peace comes from complete acceptance. When you accept everything as it is, right now, you can have your feelings whether they are sad or scared but have awareness that they are just feelings. They do not define you, they only define a state. So yes in the midst of despair you can be at peace. It might sound tricky but it’s just a shift in perception.

Something else Rhonda said stuck with me. She had a great analogy. Imagine that 1/3 of all people just loved you. They love you for who you are exactly right now without having to do anything. Now another 1/3 just don’t like you and they never will. The last third don’t really care, they are indifferent. Now most of us are trying so hard to perform and be accepted by that 2/3. We don’t even give attention to the 1/3. Why? Why do we try so hard to convince and why do we struggle so much with acceptance? We have this 1/3 that just wants the best for us. So what if you surrounded yourself with the 1/3 and gave back to the 1/3, how would that impact your life? I know some of you might immediately get upset that 1/3 doesn’t like you and I guess that’s the point. It’s just the way life is- to some you will be a superstar and to others maybe a nuisance. The question is can you be ok with that? Can you find relief that you don’t have to perform anymore? It gave me freedom when I heard that.

I just feel grateful for my new adventures. I am grateful that despite my fears that are so loud in my head, aren’t keeping me from moving forward.