Stepping in to your greatest self

You cannot change what you refuse to confront. unknown

Sometimes life throws us a curve ball.  And sometimes what seems like the biggest heartache or the biggest breakdown is your opportunity to step into your greatest self.  I know this is not what you want to hear.  What you want to hear is that everything can go back to the way it was or that the pain is temporary.  Unfortunately, that's not the case.  You have to remember that life is in constant motion and your best life will come from accepting that motion and adapting to "what is" at every corner.  It sounds hard but really it's the most peaceful way to live.  

We as a society carry so much pain around, pain from our past, pain from expectations not met and pain from living out of integrity with ourselves.  To me carrying all this around is so much harder than accepting life as it is and learning to adapt and change.  This moment is your opportunity to say yes! to everything that is happening in this moment and to embrace your present circumstances.  In this moment you  have the power for greatness and in this moment you can be everything that you ever dreamed of.  The past moment has no hold on you.  So right now think about what you really really want and take an action towards it.  Don't let anything get in your way.  Take a baby step.  AND keep taking them.  Baby step your way to your greatest life knowing that moment by moment you have a choice and and opportunity to reinvent and recreate EVERYTHING.  How exciting is that?!?!
Goosebumps.  Go on now make that call, take that action, move towards your dreams and please let me know how it goes. :)

Living Outloud

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
― Theodore Roosevelt

You have the tools.  You are enough.  You have what it takes.  Now go out there and take the steps you know you need to take.  Yes, get into action.

If you are spending your time blaming, complaining, whining or just shut down then your life looks like an exact reflection of that.  In order for you to have a life that you LOVE, yes LOVE, like you wake up in the morning and say I LOVE MY LIFE then it's time to up your game.

In order for that to happen you have to a vision and you have to believe it's possible and then you take baby steps.  Yep, it's really that easy- the hard part is shutting off all the self doubt and surrounding yourself with people that say YES! you can do it.

This is the difference between success and stagnation.  You just walk through the fear and own it like it's YOUR life.  Oh wait it is your life.  So what are you waiting for ?  Be bold and take a stand for you today.  Do something that scares you. Step outside of your comfort zone.

JUST LIVE TODAY- oh and don't forget to have FUN while you're at it!

Easy or Hard?

“It may be our actions that define us, but it is our reaction that changes the course of things.”
Dianna Hardy

Is life easy or is life hard?  It's your choice. 

If life is hard it's because you are resisting what is and you are fighting back either mentally or physically.  Shit happens. Getting upset happens. People will cross you and accidents happen. Life happens and it's in the seconds after it happens that your fate is decided.  The moment you choose to hold on to something and be upset about it and then find agreement for your being upset --is the moment that life becomes hard.  The "what happened" doesn't cause the unending pain, it's your choice to get angry and to spin out that causes the pain. Sadness from loss is different. Loss is a process but anger has a life all on its own and it resides in your head. 

It may sound impossible to not react in a big way when something bad has happened in your life but it is something to think about. I am just challenging you to see your part in how life shows up for you. If someone cuts you off while driving and you get angry and fight back or maybe chase them down or just yell about it and proceed to tell others then you are choosing to take that event and multiply it.  How many situations do you multiply in your life?  What I mean is, how often do you amplify your problems?

Now instead of letting your mind play out the scenario that I've just described, what if you could press the PAUSE button?  In the moment that something happens and you want to get upset, press PAUSE and give yourself a second to choose. You may still choose to flip out, but at least you can start to see that it's your choice. Your automatic reactions are what get you in trouble. What does that really mean when you say "I'm having a bad day, a bad month or even a bad year"?  What are you choosing for yourself? If you are struggling, there is another way out than having to accept the struggle as the only way.  It starts first with your thoughts and recognizing that you have a choice in how you perceive and react to things around you.  Your reaction is everything. What you choose to focus on will be a direct reflection of your life and if it is in fact easy or hard.  I challenge you today to seek out all the things in your life that work and all of the things that bring you joy and then tell me if there is a difference in how your day unfolds. I would love feedback from you. Click on the comment button below and let me know what triggers you most.



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Reaction vs Action

A life of reaction is a life of slavery, intellectually and spiritually. One must fight for a life of action, not reaction.

Rita Mae Brown

If you live life as a reaction you lose your freedom to have the life you want.  Instead you are playing defense and always living as if to attack or defend.  Life can be lived anyway you like yet many people have chosen a life of struggle.  Let me emphasize the word struggle and let me emphasize the word chosen. If you feel struggle in your life- it is because you are choosing it.  I know its not what you want to hear and maybe you are saying I didn't create the struggle in my life and well I say-- yes you did.  Knowingly did you create the struggle- absolutely not but you chose every step of the way how you would react.  Something happens and in that moment you choose how you are going to react.  You choose to react in a way that makes you a victim or you react in a way that robs your peace.  The common denominator is you.  No matter what happens outside of you, you always have a choice to react or act.  You may not have a choice on the events that happen around but you have a say in how things unfold.
There is so much freedom in recognizing that you have a say in how your life unfolds.  Just pay attention today to your actions and how you react to certain circumstances.  You always have a choice. I'm just saying you should choose you.  And by choosing you I mean choose peace.

A peaceful existence is a fruitful one.

What is worry?

Worry is like a rocking chair-- it gives you something to do but doesn't get you anywhere.

Ever wonder why we worry so much?  I think it comes from the fear of the unknown.  We worry about what someone may do or how an event will turn out or even how our own life will turn out.  Worry is like this thing that we carry around with us that prevents us from being present and fearless.  Worry keeps our mind occupied on the worse possible outcomes.  It keeps us paralyzed.  So basically worry is a relative that we don't really want living with us yet we give it a master bedroom and provide it room and board for free.  

So why not create a new story around worry? It doesn't serve any real purpose in your life yet it creates so much anxiety.  So I say let's take worry and set it to sea on a nice little sailboat where it can drift away slowly and you can have time to say your good byes.  You really don't need it.  And wow what can put in the place of worry?  What can you focus on if there is nothing to worry about?  Whoa I think that's what freedom feels like.  You have this blank canvas to create and only that which motivates and inspires you to operate from.                          Think about that.

Goodbye worry.  Hello opportunity.  Hello possibilities.  Hello freedom.

New Beliefs

Believe in poverty and you will be poor.
Believe in wealth and you will be rich.
Believe in love and you will have love.
Believe in health and you will be healthy.

Napoleon Hill

Believe in yourself and you will have and be anything you want in life.  It sounds simple right.  Just believe in great things and life will be great.  Oh except that we have these limiting beliefs that like to creep up in our lives to remind us how we can't do something or how we aren't good enough.  Limiting beliefs are usually responsible for giving us reason to give up or talk ourselves out of dreaming.  So I say lets have a bonfire and burn those limiting beliefs.  Lets write down all the little thoughts that we have that say we can't do it and that we aren't enough.  Get them out on paper and then lets burn them.  

It's time to start creating some new beliefs which say that you are amazing, dynamic, talented and have so much to give and so much to create in this world.  Why not?  Why not believe in the magnificent person that you are?  If anyone has ever told you other wise its because they didn't know the brightness of their own light.  You were put on this planet to share your gifts and talents that only you have so maybe it's time to quit hiding out.  I mean its actually exciting.  If you weren't afraid and knew you wouldn't fail then what would you be doing?  It's a valid question and the only reason you aren't doing it is because of a fear and an old belief that isn't even true.  So use me to lean on and remind you that you have enough, you are enough and that life is supposed to be fun.  So start having some fun and create some new awesome inspiring beliefs that make you excited to get out of bed.

List your gratitudes and be reminded of just how awesome life is!  

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Yes You Can

Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you.  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Whatever it is you want to try; please try it.  Don't wait for the right moment.  The moment is now.  You are creating your adventure and maybe you forgot that this is supposed to be an adventure.  And when I say adventure I mean- FUN, yes life is fun and exciting and if you aren't experiencing fun and excitement then you might be caught in the struggle and fight of life.  If you are experiencing heaviness then you might want to take a step back and look at your life as if from a mountain top.  In the big scheme of things- what you are experiencing is a blip on the timeline which is called your life.  And please don't hear that as a disregard for your pain.  I just want you to change the lens from which you are looking through and find a new focus for your focus.  What good is happening in your life and what blessings are happening all around you?  They are there just look for them.  Look for the smiles and the moments of joy.  Breathe that in and know that it can be yours.  You really can have a life that is overflowing with joy and abundance.  Add some play to your life and see what happens.  Do the thing that you said you would never do.  Just do and stop doubting.  Get into action and let me know what happens.

Today I am grateful for all of the resources and wonderful and teachers in my life.

manifestation from thoughts

"Creation is always happening. Every time an individual has a thought, or a prolonged, chronic way of thinking, they're in the creation process. Something is going to manifest out of those thoughts" - Michael Beckwith

So what are you creating? If your thoughts are actually manifesting the things in your life then hmmm well, I guess the question is- how is your life looking? It's really amazing when you think about it- that we have total freedom to create any life we want. The canvas is blank and we create what we want on it every day. If only we could realize this. The struggle and difficulty arise because we forget. If you are experiencing any angst in your life its because you are resisting what is and what you created. The good news is that you don't have to paddle upstream anymore. That's my favorite analogy for the struggle we feel in life. You don't have to fight the current. You can turn your boat around and enjoy the natural current which is always there. I know for myself that I am the most stressed and discontent when I am in my own way. So I have to say "get out of the way" and stop resisting change and be willing to do the scary thing. You know when you do the scary thing, like call the person you're scared to call or attempt something for the first time- you always feel like you accomplished something after. You walked through the fear. So these thoughts that you are having that isolate you or tell you that you are not good enough- well toss them aside and start replacing them with thoughts of your strength and desires and fill yourself with bliss for the work of art that you are going to paint called "your life". You really do have the power to turn your boat around.
Keep your mind occupied with the good stuff. My new website will be up soon and I will have a whole resource section for books, movies, websites and anything else that I can think of that will help you strengthen this new muscle. It's a journey and a daily practice to keep yourself engaged in living a peaceful existence. I am here to help in anyway I can.


And as my favorite trainer says- if it doesn't challenge you it doesn't change you.
Thank you Serona. I'm grateful for you today.

A New Perspective

“loving people live in a loving world.hostile people live in a hostile world.same world.”
Wayne W. Dyer

 Everything you could ever want is right before you.  The question is what do you choose to see and how do you respond.  In one of my classes I shared an analogy that fits this perfectly.  Let's pretend that I am organizing a scavenger hunt but this won't be your ordinary scavenger hunt.  This will be more like an emotional scavenger hunt where you are going to look for things like; someone laughing hysterically, two people in a warm embrace, someone helping someone else, another person with a look of joy in their eyes and so on.  I would say at the end of this hunt that you would most likely be filled with joy and happiness yourself yet nothing really happened to you.  You were just out in the world looking for these items on your list.  And I bet I could give you a similar list with things like; find someone who's yelling and
another who is hurting someone and so on and so forth.  You would most likely feel unhappiness and angst at the end of that hunt.  So what does this tell us.  It's the same world and the same circumstances yet the only thing that has changed is what you were looking for.  It really comes down to our perspective of what we are choosing to see.

Today look for love and laughter and may you be filled up and spill over.  That's the kind of day I'm talking about, go out and find it and let me know what you find.  Life is so so so good!

Play it out

The master of the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which; he simply pursues his vision of excellence in whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he is always doing both.

Buddha


What a beautiful concept. Funny how you can read something and read it again years later only to say, ohhhh wow I get it. I get it. I think my recent visitor reminded me of that. What a gift it is to be given joy and laughter and reminded that life is fun.

I feel so grounded and ready to teach. I have been a student gathering my tools, preparing for my souls work while grinding out all the things that I thought needed to be prefect only to learn that everything is exactly in its place. I am filled with confidence that I don't know everything but I know spirit, love, truth, and I am ready to be a purposeful vehicle for other to transform their lives. I am starting my first workshop this week and plan to add many more, both online and in person.


I really thank you for reading my blogs as sporadic as they have been. I appreciate having a forum for me to write and express that which needs to get out. I hope that I offer you comfort and inspire to know your greatness. Buckle because this ride is gonna get fun and you get to play it out with me. Be bold, be fearless and always reach further than you thought you could.


Today I am grateful for you!


peace and blessings

What are you looking for?

You will find exactly what you are looking for.

ashley sibille


It's such a simple yet profound quote to me.  You will find exactly what you are looking for in that most people are looking for something to go wrong, looking for drama, looking for what doesn't work...and you know what you will find it every time.  So the question to ask yourself is what are you looking for?  what do you want?  It seems like a simple question yet most people have no idea really.  It's easy to complain about what you don't want but to say what you do want would make you accountable for really creating a life that you desire.  So today really give some thought to what it is you want your life to look like.  And when you start looking for that you will notice that you will start finding amazing things.  You will see that you are actually creating your life and have some say about what shows in it.  Ponder that today and also find something to be grateful for.

Today I am grateful for the amazing network of friends in my life that remind me just how blessed I am.