how do you show up?

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." — Maya Angelou

I saw this quote in a movie last night and it even though I had seen it before, it stopped me this time. It skims a lot of fat off the top for me. It makes life elementary in a way. If I am busy doing things then my interactions with people are merely a means to get to the next task in turn I miss out on so much. The things aren't important, the people are--I forget. I have so many amazing people in my life and sometimes I have blinders on with a light shining on the thing to be accomplished.

I feel like lately I am breaking some old paradigms for myself. I feel some space in life to be still. I am trusting more in the process, in my process. It feels good. I am still sorting out how I want it all to look. All I know is that if I keep exercising in the morning and then write in the blog that my day will be better because of it.

The more I show up and participate the more I get out of life.

It seems like a no-brain er but its a challenge to us all. Something happens in the day where we become trance like and do do do until the day is over and then we begin again. We break the trance when something happens outside of ourselves and reminds of our vitality. We feel empowered and strong and then it is gone again. Only to be back in cycle which we call the way life is. I say that life is in the moments when we are feeling moved and are called to be something. It's our fear that holds us back. Everyday we have a new beginning, an opportunity to show up differently. Do whatever you can to break your cycle. Do whatever you can to pull yourself out of the mundane. Ask yourself the hard questions? Shake up the stagnation. Don't be afraid to fail....

Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.
Robert Kennedy

There are so many quotes and saying about showing up in life. Yet we struggle. No matter what anyone says to you, in the end, it is within yourself that you find the power to show up. How are you going to show up today? Who are you going to be in the face of adversity?

Today I am embracing what is, and opening myself up to all the possibilities around me. I am going to look where I have not looked. I am going to walk through my fears and show up. Today I am going to put people first and things second.

surrender

Today it is not easy to write. I just feel a little stuck. But I look at the title of my blog and smile. "Abundant Aspirations" is a state that I want to embody. It's the place of abundance that no matter what, when, how- you feel filled up. It doesn't matter what the circumstances are or the problems in your life because when you feel abundant, you are at peace. Being abundant has nothing to do with whats in your bank account.

Today I want to surrender to the walls I have built up. I want to break through the places in me that want to live in business as usual. I want to shake up my ways of thinking that get me running in the same circles. We have accepted so much in our society, "that this is the way life is", "you live and you die" and "people never change". There are many other sayings that we live by, that shape who we are and how we interact with other people.

I don't accept this for myself and therefore have a different outcome in my life. People will always try to sell me their sad view of the world or their reality and I just don't buy it. We are all only living in our own realities after all so why not choose a brighter more empowering picture to paint. You will find exactly what you are looking for in life. If you are looking for rude, angry, selfish people- you will find plenty. On the other hand if you are looking for peaceful, kind, happy people- this is what you will find. It sounds to easy but its true. Try it! The trick is you have to believe it. If you believe in the good and search for it than you wont see anything else. Is this denial? There are so many horrible things happening in the world, so how can we ignore that? Again by focusing on what is good and what works the other will fade away. If we could do this on a global level then we could change the world. But let's just start with ourselves.

I will start with me. I choose to listen to things that empower me. In moments like today when I feel hardened I have to write and find my gratitudes. In being thankful I start to let in a little sunlight and remember the good stuff. If I focus on feeling stuck then I will stay stuck. I must see what I do have to fill myself up.

Today I am grateful for my mother. She inspires me to keep growing and always find the humor in things. I just feel blessed to have her as my mother and friend.

empowered and blessed

I got great feedback from yesterdays post. Thank you. I feel like I am just scratching the surface with this blog. It is such an amazing tool for me to observe me in the face of being vulnerable. I really believe the more you can be open and honest, the more you can be still in the face of anything. It's our reactions and judgements that keep us elevated to a level where we are no longer in touch with our center. The more I can write without expectation and dive into what my truth is the more I can be of service.

Everyday I have an opportunity to push my own bounds of understanding. For example, I have my 86 year old friend Norma in a nursing home. She is very much alive and living in a place where death is prominent. I am doing my best to get her into a better place where she can live out her life surrounded by love and support and have the best quality of life possible. It's a challenge within me to stay with it. In my past I have been great at creating projects and getting behind ideas only to leave them behind when the newness wore off or something else caught my attention. This experience with Norma is giving me the opportunity to show up differently. She sits there in her wheelchair crying out for help. She wants to feel alive. And here I am in this place with her where I can maybe make a difference. I am learning everyday that just to fight for her is giving her life. She does matter and I want her to know that. I want her to know that in the end of her life she is not alone. She is appreciated and loved. So here I am looking at my friend wanting to feel alive and it hits me that we as humans are mostly asleep to this life. We are getting through, marking days and being busy. But as I look into Norma's eyes I see someone clawing for life. In this moment time stops and the pure essence of life is present. I feel timeless and I feel present. She is helping me so much more than I am helping her. She is giving me this great gift of awareness.

It brings up my own circumstances in life that sometimes feel daunting. It makes me aware of the treadmill I sometimes feel that I am on. I can see movement in my life but there are some areas that feel harder to change or create. So I say to myself "what can I accomplish in my life if I am disciplined."

I always disliked that word. It sounds militant and rigid and just feels cold. Just goes to show you what associations we have with words and how it can play out in our lives. My coach recently brought up the word discipline and I felt my body shutter. I don't want to be militant, cold and rigid. After many days of just sitting with that word and the implications, I have found a place of power within it. If I have discipline than I can have boundaries, if I have discipline I can accomplish great things, if I have discipline I can be what I say I want to be....So here I am writing. I am writing everyday and sharing my thoughts, my struggles and my insights. I am carving out my path and making my way to be a life coach. I am being Norma's advocate and no matter how this ends up, she will have me by her side. It feels good to have the space in my mind and set intentions that I can get behind. My life is unfolding and I feel empowered and blessed.

the sun through the cracks

Today is a good day. I walked through my fear yesterday and I survived. It's amazing how confronting it feels to do something that you are not used to doing. For me it's standing up for myself. There is something inside me that will immediately put myself in the wrong or bow down down to a stronger personality. I don't want the confrontation. But really I don't want to feel the pain of my own self doubt. I would rather walk away then challenge my own belief about myself. Yes it sounds sad, sad to write it down and sad to realize for myself that I give myself that little credit.



The good news is that I can write about it and reveal it. In writing I am able to see it in a way that empowers me. We are all connected and we all have struggles in our lives. And to bridge the gap from our own minds to the connectedness that is possible is so powerful. Just by speaking about the secret things that keep us anxious, distracted and off center, we are immediately released by the power these secrets hold.



It doesnt mean that any of this is easy. We have spent years building up these false truths about ourselves. It takes a commitment to love yourself in a way that you would love your own child. Just that alone to love ourselves in a way that we are precious and with flaws. It makes me feel peaceful to write it. It feels good to give myself that kind of space. I want to get better at how I treat me. I want to be more encouraging to myself and less critical.

In the sunlight everything seems possible. It's a gorgeous day and I am grateful for it. Today I am going to be kinder to myself. Today I believe that I can and that I deserve great things in my life.

Walking through the fear

Last night I had the opportunity to walk through a fear. I had to address something that was daunting. I needed to express myself and own my power. Amazingly enough I got through the email and was able to hit send. It wasn't easy. It challenged my desire to break through. In these moments I want to shrink up and be safe and back away. The little girl in me is afraid to get in trouble or cause trouble. This is a strong tie for me that I want to break though in my life.

When I was younger I prided myself on being the one that wasn't going to make waves or cause problems. As an adult that translates to not always saying everything on my mind and not always standing up for myself.

What a great thing that has come up and I get to write about it in a way that helps me through my own process. Fear is always right there to lure us into believing the worst of ourselves. Well it's just not true. We are evolving beings with opportunities everyday to show up differently. Today I have an opportunity to have a conversation with this person that empowers me. Today I have an opportunity to walk through a fear. What fear are you going to walk through today?

lets talk ego

I like to think of the ego as the part of you (in your head) that wont shut up. Its the voice that demands to be right and blame anything and everything on anyone else. It's the part of us that will do anything to survive. But really its the part of us that keeps us from living.



What if we could die to this voice? What if we could say I don't need to be right, I don't need to be perfect? In these moments where we struggle to keep up appearances we lose out on the opportunity to be humble. Humility is such a beautiful quality.



If you can tap into that place within where you can let go and not feel the need to be right, you can have peace. It's a practice to be still in the midst of accusations. It's a hard task to not take things personally. But on the other side of this is so much grace and stillness that allows us to be more than we have ever imagined. I can taste it. I feel that I am finally living more in the stillness than in the chaos in my life. I am always challenged but I feel stronger to hold onto my center.



In gratitude I am always able to get back to my center. If I can speak of the blessings in my life than the other stuff can fall away. I get to refocus and look at my day in another way that gives me power. Just remember that gratitude is the key for a more balanced life.



Today I am grateful for my home, my ability to run the stairs at the beach, and my support. Thank you Cec, Mary, Jeff, Mom and Brenden.

break free!!!!!!

Isn't it an amazing feeling to feel free, like driving in a convertible down the coast on a gorgeous day. There is something that happens in that moment in which the circumstances in our lives dissipate. We experience a joy that can't be described because it is without roots.

Ahhh this is where we want to be in life. I strive to be in a place where I cant explain why I feel joy. I want to embody goodness despite the circumstances around me. It's a challenge and a daily practice to be still and live in gratitude. Things will always come up. Life will challenge you to think differently, to be flexible. In these moments we can shift and think differently or resist. It is always our choice. If you choose to live inside of a box than life will be limited to that box. We have the power to create within us. We have everything we need to get it done. I am seeing this more and more everyday. I can see how my thoughts shape my day and how my intentions dictate what shows up. It's powerful and you wonder why we don't all live this way. I think it's because there are so many influences out in the world that distract us. We have so many opportunities to not think, to move about in life without trying anything else. It seems easier just to go along, to participate in conversations or gossip rather that perpetuate the idea that there is more bad in the world than good.


It's only true if that is where you put your energy. There are many wonderful things happening in this moment. I encourage you to find them. Make it your mission to find beautiful things, inspiring people, and true moments of joy. If you look you will find it and your life will change.

Everything really is ok

In the moment of fear, "everything is ok" just doesn't make sense. Someone says it to you and it seems distant and lifeless. In the moment of darkness you feel that no one can understand or grasp the severity of your situation. This place that we put ourselves, its a separate place, its a place that keeps fear intact.

In these moments if we can step back and realize that we are ok. If we can say 'no matter what" I will be ok and this moment will pass. It really is that easy to shift our intention and mindset but so difficult to trust that worry will not get us anywhere.

I have been the observer in my life for the last 24 hours. It's an interesting place to be to watch fear come in and see how it changes my present. And then to be in a place like last night where I was watching Reverend Michael and feeling so expanded. I can vacillate so easily from fear to freedom. But as the observer I remain unattached and allow these emotions to be fluid.

We are amazing beings and have the potential for greatness. All of us have this potential, its just waiting to be recognized and allowed the opportunity to be expressed. If we can just step back from the strong hold of "what we should be doing" or how life should look" we can live in joy and abundance. I can taste it. I feel these moments in my life and my heart expands. I am learning to be more me and letting go of my false expecations of myself.

Today ask yourself these three questions:
How can I give
How can I grow
What Can I celebrate?

Today I can give love and hugs, Today I can give my time to help someone else
Today I can grow in faith
Today I can celebrate my amazing life, my friends, my time with Jeff, and that all of my needs are met

Getting back to center

So when you say good bye to fear, doubt, and worry it lends way for lots of fear, doubt and worry. Wow! what an amazing experience to get it so quickly. I say it yesterday and voila! I mean of course in the midst of it I am not thinking "this is an amazing experience right now- that I feel taken advantage of and am not getting money that is owed to me." No it hit me in my core and I got emotional and felt small. In that moment all I wanted was to hide. I was very fortunate to be on my way to get a massage when I got the information that took me to my dark abyss. It just reinforces that we are always taken care (thank you Jeff)

Anyway, while getting my "Korean" massage which must be noted because this type of massage is a body awakening. It's not a pampered fluffy listen to the soft music fall asleep massage. It's about feeling the pain and releasing it. So as I laid there in my pain, both emotional and physical I saw the opportunity for new growth. I felt something emerging in me that knew better.


Now of course when I woke up this morning I lost that picture. The picture I had when I woke up was bleak and full of worry. I was panicked and grasping at anything in mind to bring me back. Really, am I my own guinea pig. It's amazing how powerful my thoughts are and how in a moment I was ready to give it all up.


I'm very much in it right now but with a little more breathing room. I do know the truth and I am finding my way back. I know there will always be things to trigger me and divert my attention, and its the time it takes for me to get back to center. This is what I want to master in life. We will always have opportunities to grow. We can deny that or we can embrace it.

Today I am embracing what is and loving myself thru the pain. I am available for new opportunitues to arise.



The only thing that ultimately matters is this: Can I sense my essential Beingness, the I Am, in the background of my life at all times?



E Tolle

Goodbye worry, doubt, and fear

The beginning of the freedom from the pain-body lies first in the realization that you have a pain body.

E. Tolle



This thing that we carry around with us, this pain-body so heavily rooted in all things mentally challenging. It seems so real, so how in the midst of it can we separate that heaviness and realize it's not real. It's our way as a human being to create false purpose. As if worry is some sort of real quality that accomplishes something in our lives. But we feel if we don't worry then somehow we aren't paying our dues.



This may sound crazy but it's what we humans do and have lots practice and encouragement doing. We have so much agreement around us to embrace our pain-body as a welcomed member of the family. In pain somehow we can find support and it feels good and comforting in a momentary way.



I have been consciously looking at my worry and doubt and trying to make peace with it. I can see that it has no correlation as to whether I manifest something quicker. I know that when I am worried my energy is down and I feel tired. When I step into my true self, the part of me that knows I have the power to create anything I desire, it's automatic that I am lifted to a place where I feel confident. I am manifesting a new career in my life and maintaining an old one at the same time. It's challenging and a constant opportunity for me to let go to what I know and believe that I can have it. Writing is my way to get through all of the muck and see where I stand and what I truly desire. I hope I can be a source of strength for someone else to stand aside from their worry and join me on a walk through the fear and into freedom. It is my greatest joy in life to help someone else. I am humbled by the opportunity to unfold with so much support. My heart is filled up with all of the love that I feel.

Peace in the stillness

It's when I stop that I can see where I am. In this moment I can check in and see if I am off centered or struggling with something. I feel pretty good today. Fear drifts in and out of me. I am letting go of my big picture and it doesn't release easily. The more I am flexible, the more I am available for all the opportunities around me.

The world supports us to stay, to change only when it's comfortable. Our ego tells us to always keep a front, never show weakness, never stop. Its exhausting if you have to live in a place where you have to keep the balls up in the air. What a freeing moment, the moment you can admit to yourself and others that you are not superman. It's challenging, mostly because you believe that you are superman. Right...thats what you are thinking, but I can do it all, really I am amazing. And I say that there is great power in recognizing that you are human. If you stop and breathe and know that doing your best is all you can do. You tap into a freedom that you never thought possible.

Today we all have opportunites to show up differently. If you are finding yourself backed into a corner then its time to sit down. I can cause myself so much pressure and chaos. I am either the laid back easy going person most people know me as or a completely crazed person on a mission to Make it all Happen. I am sitting in my stillness and asking for another way. I am letting my balls drop and sitting down. My mission is to learn stillness in the midst of chaos.

overflowing fullness: abundance of the heart.

I am daughter, a sister, a friend, a partner, and a seeker in life. I feel passionate about growth, mine and yours. I seek to be a support for you to be better . I am committed to being a life coach and writing through the process. As I write I am able to understand more fully what I am here for. I am preparing myself for what is ahead. I am excited and feel abundant and I aspire to embody that always.

I havent written in so long that my previous blog in no longer available. So I start from this point and move forward. That is all we can do -is start from right here, no looking back, and no regrets.

I was pulled to call this blog abundant aspirations. We all yearn and crave to be abundant and yet the irony is- is that we already are everything we need to be. So abundant aspirations is the quest that we go on everyday to become something greater only to learn that we have it all. So we keep reading and keep writing to find it to uncover it. It's really amazing if you can step back from it and see life from the perspective of life.

We stuggle so much to figure out the answers and solve our problems. We are a tiny ant in the face of life, God, source whatever you want to call the source of life that breathes into us and yet we still think our inflexibility and stubborness will get us somewhere.

I don't know the answers but I am willing. I know that there is so much inside me to express and uncover and this is my first step. Today is the day that I begin my unfoldment. I am turning a page and am grateful to have a place where I can share and get encouragement. It is in writing where I discover my truth.

I want to be open to what's next for me and not pretend that I have it all figured out. I am letting go of my picture and it's hard. I'm having a hard time writing words right now because I am so aware of my need to get it right to say it right and most of all to look good. I want to let that go and and get out of my own way. I hope in writing I inspire you to let go.