I have come to believe that there are only two kinds of experiences in life: those that stem from our Higher Self and those that have something to teach us. We recognize the first as pure joy and the latter as struggle. But they are both perfect. Each time we confront some intense difficulty, we know there is something we haven’t learned yet, and the universe is now giving us the opportunity to learn.
Susan Jeffers
Today I am getting on a plane to Louisiana. I’m going to see my whole family and extended family. It’s a Sibille family reunion. I’m looking forward to shifting gears and connecting with people I haven’t seen in years. I’m excited.
Yesterday was quite an up and down day. I was on the phone with customer service for a couple hours and I got to get experience some anger that I haven’t experienced in a long time. I felt like I wasn’t being heard and I pretty much freaked. Obviously it wasn’t about Verizon. It tapped into something and when it did I was enraged. Does that happen to you? Do you have reactions to things that are way over scale for what happened? The next thing I did was think about anything else that doesn’t work in my life and then make that wrong. Within minutes I was so mad and everything was wrong. I haven’t done this in a while and I surely haven’t missed it. But I felt like I must write about it. I know I have something to learn and by sharing it maybe you will to. I was able to capture a moment where I was triggered by being put on hold and hung up on. I turned that into such anger for many things that my mind created so quickly that I couldn’t even keep up. Luckily I have a support system to pull me out so that by the time I got a ticket a little while later I actually was ok and didn’t explode.
Our minds are powerful and can’t take us on a ride that we don’t necessarily want to go on. This is why your center is so important. If you keep moving so fast then you might not know where your center is. Stop and find the peace within you. When you know what that’s like then these other places will not be where you want to hang out. You will get upset but how long are you going to stay that way? How many things and people are you going to make wrong in the process?
Today I am grateful that I am in a peaceful place.
i am not my fears
Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me. - Carol Burnett
At the end of the day in the quiet of being alone with yourself, with your thoughts, what is it your fear most? For me it is that I didn’t do enough. I don’t want to leave this earth feeling like I coulda shoulda. I fear that I don’t have what it takes. I fear that maybe I should have done more already. I fear that this ball of fire within me will burn out. There I said it.
I am here writing as a person who feels so empowered yet scared to death to really go there, scared to really do it. I sat in that room on Sunday and felt so many emotions but mostly my ball of fire that I don’t know what to do with. I write for me and I write for you. I write to tap into the part of me that has lived many lives and helped many people. I want to do more. I think this ropes course training will be an awesome and a great opportunity to explore the physical aspect of getting over fear. I feel that this experience will give me more insight and hopefully more courage.
My fear would like to just keep me inside of a box. It can be comfortable inside of a box but never ultimately fulfilling in a way that moves and inspires you. I guess you have to make a decision about the kind of life you want to lead. Because really it’s all up to you, no can do it for you. As much as you feel lost or sad or discontent it is nothing compared to the pain you will feel if you don’t do anything. Whatever reasons you have for reading this, whatever you are looking for know that it is already in you and you have the power to change your life. I will continue to write and continue to discover ways to talk about things that we all go through. Look at me I’m starting out again. I’m feeling the pain of separating from someone I love and starting over with me again. I just feel grateful that I have the support and love in my life that makes me realize that I will never be alone.
At the end of the day in the quiet of being alone with yourself, with your thoughts, what is it your fear most? For me it is that I didn’t do enough. I don’t want to leave this earth feeling like I coulda shoulda. I fear that I don’t have what it takes. I fear that maybe I should have done more already. I fear that this ball of fire within me will burn out. There I said it.
I am here writing as a person who feels so empowered yet scared to death to really go there, scared to really do it. I sat in that room on Sunday and felt so many emotions but mostly my ball of fire that I don’t know what to do with. I write for me and I write for you. I write to tap into the part of me that has lived many lives and helped many people. I want to do more. I think this ropes course training will be an awesome and a great opportunity to explore the physical aspect of getting over fear. I feel that this experience will give me more insight and hopefully more courage.
My fear would like to just keep me inside of a box. It can be comfortable inside of a box but never ultimately fulfilling in a way that moves and inspires you. I guess you have to make a decision about the kind of life you want to lead. Because really it’s all up to you, no can do it for you. As much as you feel lost or sad or discontent it is nothing compared to the pain you will feel if you don’t do anything. Whatever reasons you have for reading this, whatever you are looking for know that it is already in you and you have the power to change your life. I will continue to write and continue to discover ways to talk about things that we all go through. Look at me I’m starting out again. I’m feeling the pain of separating from someone I love and starting over with me again. I just feel grateful that I have the support and love in my life that makes me realize that I will never be alone.
A New Day
If you have a chance to look back on your life, you’ve got to ask this question: “What difference have I made? Was my life just about what I wanted, or did I contribute and make a difference to others? Jerome Downes
Jerome was one of many great teachers in my life and yesterday I attended his celebration of life service. Many things came up for me and I hope that I can put into words the magnitude of my insights that I got yesterday. I will try and if nothing else it will be an interesting week of writing.
First I must acknowledge my lack of writing. I have been having some personal challenges which I found difficult to write about before working them out a bit. My girlfriend and I have decided to change the dynamics of our relationship. We love each other very much and want to stay committed to our friendship. It’s been hard to have this blog and write about my journey and truths when I couldn’t even talk about what I was feeling with my partner. Sometimes it’s just really hard to communicate. And that’s what makes us human. The thing is that we all have something that challenges us and we struggle and we contemplate on what is working and what isn’t. Sometimes we get stuck and don’t know how to make a move and sometimes we just need to stand still and see that everything is perfect just the way it is. My point is that life is anything but predictable or understandable in a way that you can coast on what you learned yesterday. There’s no coasting. You never have it in the bag either. We are unpredictable beings and the best thing you can do is to stay in communication. It’s like I say it and I know and I still struggle with it. I can only try to do better.
Time to get to work. Tomorrow I will share more about the celebration of life and my insights.
Today I am grateful for a new beginning. I am grateful for Cecilia and the wonderful human being that she is.
Jerome was one of many great teachers in my life and yesterday I attended his celebration of life service. Many things came up for me and I hope that I can put into words the magnitude of my insights that I got yesterday. I will try and if nothing else it will be an interesting week of writing.
First I must acknowledge my lack of writing. I have been having some personal challenges which I found difficult to write about before working them out a bit. My girlfriend and I have decided to change the dynamics of our relationship. We love each other very much and want to stay committed to our friendship. It’s been hard to have this blog and write about my journey and truths when I couldn’t even talk about what I was feeling with my partner. Sometimes it’s just really hard to communicate. And that’s what makes us human. The thing is that we all have something that challenges us and we struggle and we contemplate on what is working and what isn’t. Sometimes we get stuck and don’t know how to make a move and sometimes we just need to stand still and see that everything is perfect just the way it is. My point is that life is anything but predictable or understandable in a way that you can coast on what you learned yesterday. There’s no coasting. You never have it in the bag either. We are unpredictable beings and the best thing you can do is to stay in communication. It’s like I say it and I know and I still struggle with it. I can only try to do better.
Time to get to work. Tomorrow I will share more about the celebration of life and my insights.
Today I am grateful for a new beginning. I am grateful for Cecilia and the wonderful human being that she is.
Can you stop blaming and complaining?
You could write a song about some kind of emotional problem you are having, but it would not be a good song, in my eyes, until it went through a period of sensitivity to a moment of clarity. Without that moment of clarity to contribute to the song, it's just complaining.
Joni Mitchell
What would life be like if you no longer blamed or complained? It’s so ingrained in us that most of the time you don’t even know you’re doing it.
Something happens and you immediately find someone or something to blame for the misfortune. And then after you are set on who or what to blame then you can start complaining about it. We do this many times a day. Sometimes it’s big complaints and they can last for years and sometimes it’s just seconds out of your day. I’m sure you have no idea what I am talking about.
Let me be more clear…complaining about what you have, what you don’t have, who took something away, the job you have, the job you don’t have, the relationship you are in, the car you drive….I could keep going, the point is that it’s all a waste of time. Complaining is like external worry. It serves no function other than stagnation. It keeps you in a funk and more important it keeps you stuck. You will never find clarity while complaining and blaming.
You might be thinking but what if I’m upset about something and I need to get it off my chest. Well then you need to vent. Venting is different. Venting is something you set up with someone else and you put a time on it. It’s important to have someone in your life that you can go to and say all the garbage that is in your head. This person needs to be clear that you are venting and you are not looking for support to blame and complain but just good ole venting. Get it out, and say it all and know that in 20 minutes you’re going to move on. If you need to vent again then do it again another day and have clarity on venting time versus complaining. It takes training. We tend to want to stay in ick. It takes work to step out of it.
So can you give complaining and blaming up? How about just for one day? No complaining or blaming for one whole day, can you do it? Let me know how it goes.
Today I am grateful for the water. I am grateful that I get to see the ocean every day.
Joni Mitchell
What would life be like if you no longer blamed or complained? It’s so ingrained in us that most of the time you don’t even know you’re doing it.
Something happens and you immediately find someone or something to blame for the misfortune. And then after you are set on who or what to blame then you can start complaining about it. We do this many times a day. Sometimes it’s big complaints and they can last for years and sometimes it’s just seconds out of your day. I’m sure you have no idea what I am talking about.
Let me be more clear…complaining about what you have, what you don’t have, who took something away, the job you have, the job you don’t have, the relationship you are in, the car you drive….I could keep going, the point is that it’s all a waste of time. Complaining is like external worry. It serves no function other than stagnation. It keeps you in a funk and more important it keeps you stuck. You will never find clarity while complaining and blaming.
You might be thinking but what if I’m upset about something and I need to get it off my chest. Well then you need to vent. Venting is different. Venting is something you set up with someone else and you put a time on it. It’s important to have someone in your life that you can go to and say all the garbage that is in your head. This person needs to be clear that you are venting and you are not looking for support to blame and complain but just good ole venting. Get it out, and say it all and know that in 20 minutes you’re going to move on. If you need to vent again then do it again another day and have clarity on venting time versus complaining. It takes training. We tend to want to stay in ick. It takes work to step out of it.
So can you give complaining and blaming up? How about just for one day? No complaining or blaming for one whole day, can you do it? Let me know how it goes.
Today I am grateful for the water. I am grateful that I get to see the ocean every day.
peaceful present
Happiness consists not in having, but of being, not of possessing, but of enjoying. It is the warm glow of a heart at peace with itself.
— Norman Vincent Peale
Being happy and peaceful has nothing to do with circumstances. I think we often confuse obtaining more and being more with being happy. We think if we get that great job, make more money, have a bigger place, meet our soul mate then we can have a life that we love. It’s always on the other side and around the next corner.
I have heard myself say many times, “When I get through this, then things will be better.” It’s always about the next thing. It always seems that happiness is in the future.
Happiness is a choice and you choose to be happy right now regardless of your circumstances. There have been people in prison who have learned to find peace and happiness within while there are many walking free in the streets living in their own prison. It really comes down to what’s going on inside you.
If you strip everything away, who are you? What are you about? The stuff and the distractions are just that. Can you just be? Can you stop putting your happiness in the future? Life is now!
Today I am grateful for this moment with my sweet pups enjoying all the love that they give.
— Norman Vincent Peale
Being happy and peaceful has nothing to do with circumstances. I think we often confuse obtaining more and being more with being happy. We think if we get that great job, make more money, have a bigger place, meet our soul mate then we can have a life that we love. It’s always on the other side and around the next corner.
I have heard myself say many times, “When I get through this, then things will be better.” It’s always about the next thing. It always seems that happiness is in the future.
Happiness is a choice and you choose to be happy right now regardless of your circumstances. There have been people in prison who have learned to find peace and happiness within while there are many walking free in the streets living in their own prison. It really comes down to what’s going on inside you.
If you strip everything away, who are you? What are you about? The stuff and the distractions are just that. Can you just be? Can you stop putting your happiness in the future? Life is now!
Today I am grateful for this moment with my sweet pups enjoying all the love that they give.
you choose
We either make ourselves happy or miserable. The amount of work is the same.
— Carlos Castaneda
We can worry all day long and that worry will never get us anywhere. It will just give us a day of anxiety and more time away from ourselves. Somewhere we learned that if we worry about something it will justify our existence or maybe make the thing we are worried about just go away.
How many times have you been stuck in worry? Worry many times keeps us stuck and out of action. If you start taking action than worry doesn’t really have anywhere to exist.
The work it takes to have a life you love is equal to the work it takes to stay stuck in life full worry, doubt and fear. Which life do you choose? You are choosing every single moment whether you do it knowingly or not. You are choosing to be happy or miserable. What do you choose?
Today, I am grateful for surroundings. I am grateful to live in such a beautiful state with more blue skies than I know what to do with. ;)
— Carlos Castaneda
We can worry all day long and that worry will never get us anywhere. It will just give us a day of anxiety and more time away from ourselves. Somewhere we learned that if we worry about something it will justify our existence or maybe make the thing we are worried about just go away.
How many times have you been stuck in worry? Worry many times keeps us stuck and out of action. If you start taking action than worry doesn’t really have anywhere to exist.
The work it takes to have a life you love is equal to the work it takes to stay stuck in life full worry, doubt and fear. Which life do you choose? You are choosing every single moment whether you do it knowingly or not. You are choosing to be happy or miserable. What do you choose?
Today, I am grateful for surroundings. I am grateful to live in such a beautiful state with more blue skies than I know what to do with. ;)
kinder to ourselves
Nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves.
Don Miguel Ruiz
We judge ourselves so harshly. We make ourselves wrong and cause such pain that we think it’s the world causing our pain. The suffering in the world is nothing compared to what we cause ourselves. Why do we do this? Why are we so hard? We show ourselves no compassion. We think that we should know everything and make no mistakes. So when we do there is no tolerance.
And when we hear something like this, you want to deflect it right? Think about that today? Think about how peaceful your day would be if the voice narrating everything was kinder. Think about the difference in your life if you allowed yourself to make mistakes and learn from them rather than abuse yourself for “being so stupid or short sided.” What if you loosen the reigns on you then you can work on loosening the reigns on others.
Today I am grateful for another day to learn to be kinder to myself.
Don Miguel Ruiz
We judge ourselves so harshly. We make ourselves wrong and cause such pain that we think it’s the world causing our pain. The suffering in the world is nothing compared to what we cause ourselves. Why do we do this? Why are we so hard? We show ourselves no compassion. We think that we should know everything and make no mistakes. So when we do there is no tolerance.
And when we hear something like this, you want to deflect it right? Think about that today? Think about how peaceful your day would be if the voice narrating everything was kinder. Think about the difference in your life if you allowed yourself to make mistakes and learn from them rather than abuse yourself for “being so stupid or short sided.” What if you loosen the reigns on you then you can work on loosening the reigns on others.
Today I am grateful for another day to learn to be kinder to myself.
listen
Instead of asking "what do I want from life?," a more powerful question is, "what does life want from me?"
Eckhart Tolle
My writing has been scarce. I’m shifting and it’s hard to write about it while it’s happening. I’m having many realizations and I’m very aware of the past and very aware of the present. I’m waking up and it’s hard to write about something that is indescribable at the moment.
This question, what does life want from me—has been very prevalent on my mind. Within us all is desire and a purpose. It’s not about making anything happen. It’s about being available. The more you learn to stop fighting the current and make peace with what is happening now, the more clearly you will see. You will find your strength in acceptance. Your own evolution is dependent on you getting that. It’s not about the fight and it’s not about being right. It’s about feeling centered and at peace. If you have that then everything else will fall into line. You will be able available to hear what is next.
Today , I am grateful that I have a place to write and to whoever is listening I am grateful that you read and support this journey and I am grateful for your willingness on your own journey.
Eckhart Tolle
My writing has been scarce. I’m shifting and it’s hard to write about it while it’s happening. I’m having many realizations and I’m very aware of the past and very aware of the present. I’m waking up and it’s hard to write about something that is indescribable at the moment.
This question, what does life want from me—has been very prevalent on my mind. Within us all is desire and a purpose. It’s not about making anything happen. It’s about being available. The more you learn to stop fighting the current and make peace with what is happening now, the more clearly you will see. You will find your strength in acceptance. Your own evolution is dependent on you getting that. It’s not about the fight and it’s not about being right. It’s about feeling centered and at peace. If you have that then everything else will fall into line. You will be able available to hear what is next.
Today , I am grateful that I have a place to write and to whoever is listening I am grateful that you read and support this journey and I am grateful for your willingness on your own journey.
acceptance
If I could define enlightenment briefly I would say it is "the quiet acceptance of what is.". Wayne Dyer
Not really much more to say today than that. I just really really feel that and know that the more I can be still and accept the more peaceful that life becomes.
Today I grateful for the opportunity to be still.
Not really much more to say today than that. I just really really feel that and know that the more I can be still and accept the more peaceful that life becomes.
Today I grateful for the opportunity to be still.
change
“Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears.”
Barbara Johnson
I am struggling with my writing because I feel like I’m running in place and have nothing of value to share. Yes I see movement in my life but I also see change, change that I need to make. I have skipped a few days writing and I don’t want to get down on myself for that. I guess I am learning to have patience with myself. I have such big expectations for where I should be and yet here I am. I’m just going to put one foot in front of the other and keep sharing even when I feel like I don’t have much to say.
Today I am grateful that my motor is idling.
Barbara Johnson
I am struggling with my writing because I feel like I’m running in place and have nothing of value to share. Yes I see movement in my life but I also see change, change that I need to make. I have skipped a few days writing and I don’t want to get down on myself for that. I guess I am learning to have patience with myself. I have such big expectations for where I should be and yet here I am. I’m just going to put one foot in front of the other and keep sharing even when I feel like I don’t have much to say.
Today I am grateful that my motor is idling.
back to center
Life is 10% of what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.
John Maxwell
If you think about it, how many times do you tell a story over and over? Something happens and we need to relive a moment over and over, sometimes we tell that same story for years. A large part of our day is about reaction. It’s human nature right? That’s where we get good stories, sad stories and filler. We get the stories from our reactions to what has happened to us. It just puts things in perspective for me.
So much of our lives isn’t even about the moment. Can we change that? I think we can. But like anything we must first acknowledge the way it is. We have to first see that our reaction to something begins its own life that takes us away from the moment. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have reactions; I’m saying that our reactions shouldn’t own us. If we can get back to the moment, we are more effective and we can have more clarity. The moment provides us an opportunity to show up differently. The minute we choose to take something that has happened and react in a way that distracts us, we lose the opportunity to be present. Today do one thing at a time. Practice being in the present, no matter what happens, stay in the moment….moment to moment.
Today I am grateful for this new opportunity to work with people to help overcome their fears.
John Maxwell
If you think about it, how many times do you tell a story over and over? Something happens and we need to relive a moment over and over, sometimes we tell that same story for years. A large part of our day is about reaction. It’s human nature right? That’s where we get good stories, sad stories and filler. We get the stories from our reactions to what has happened to us. It just puts things in perspective for me.
So much of our lives isn’t even about the moment. Can we change that? I think we can. But like anything we must first acknowledge the way it is. We have to first see that our reaction to something begins its own life that takes us away from the moment. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have reactions; I’m saying that our reactions shouldn’t own us. If we can get back to the moment, we are more effective and we can have more clarity. The moment provides us an opportunity to show up differently. The minute we choose to take something that has happened and react in a way that distracts us, we lose the opportunity to be present. Today do one thing at a time. Practice being in the present, no matter what happens, stay in the moment….moment to moment.
Today I am grateful for this new opportunity to work with people to help overcome their fears.
change and commitment
"We are addicted to being the way we are" Don Miguel Ruiz
Are you content with what you have and where you are? If you are then stop reading and just tell me what you’re grateful for and have a fabulous day.
If you’re like many of us struggling against what we have and trying to find something better, trying to manifest a better existence, then keep reading. We are addicted to being the way we are. When you complain about something over and over and yet you do the same things to keep creating it over and over, I would say that sound like addictive behavior. And I’m guilty of it. Change is hard especially when you resist doing the things that will cause change. For example you know that if you eat fast food all the time and don’t exercise, you will gain weight, feel like crap and probably not have a lot of energy. So you think, stop the behavior and things will change. Right? Well if you eat well then this is easy for you but you know there is something that you do and you know if you changed your behavior it would change your life. Why can’t we change? Why is it so hard? I think the first step is honesty. Whatever isn’t working in your life you have to first get honest about it.
I say let’s all take small steps together. Let’s set small goals and attain them. Anything can be done one step at a time. Our addictions can be overcome. It takes more than positive thinking to create change, it takes action and commitment. Let’s create change together. I’m here to support your growth and in turn it supports mine. For that I am grateful.
Are you content with what you have and where you are? If you are then stop reading and just tell me what you’re grateful for and have a fabulous day.
If you’re like many of us struggling against what we have and trying to find something better, trying to manifest a better existence, then keep reading. We are addicted to being the way we are. When you complain about something over and over and yet you do the same things to keep creating it over and over, I would say that sound like addictive behavior. And I’m guilty of it. Change is hard especially when you resist doing the things that will cause change. For example you know that if you eat fast food all the time and don’t exercise, you will gain weight, feel like crap and probably not have a lot of energy. So you think, stop the behavior and things will change. Right? Well if you eat well then this is easy for you but you know there is something that you do and you know if you changed your behavior it would change your life. Why can’t we change? Why is it so hard? I think the first step is honesty. Whatever isn’t working in your life you have to first get honest about it.
I say let’s all take small steps together. Let’s set small goals and attain them. Anything can be done one step at a time. Our addictions can be overcome. It takes more than positive thinking to create change, it takes action and commitment. Let’s create change together. I’m here to support your growth and in turn it supports mine. For that I am grateful.
be still
"...relinquish, for a moment, your desire to explain and label..."
Eckhart Tolle
In other words be still, be quiet, listen more and give your opinion less. We live in a world of chatter. When something happens, it’s hard to be with the event because automatically comes in the defining the event, the replaying the event, the whys and the hows and the blah blah blah. We do this in our life and we see it everywhere we look. This is why we have accepted it.
In your life you have the “what is happening” and you have the “explanation of what is happening” I think we live in the explanation much more than the “what is.” If you could for a moment relinquish the explaining and the labeling what would that look like? What if you could live in this present moment, not in --what happened and not in --what is going to happen? Does it sound impossible? It’s not. It just means you have to give up the static in your life that you believe is real. All of the noise that you keep alive is a distraction. You are distracting yourself from being still. Can you be still? In this stillness is everything you are looking for. In this quiet is where I find my peace. I am so grateful for that, I am so grateful that no matter what, my peace is always right there in the moments that I let go and simply be still.
Eckhart Tolle
In other words be still, be quiet, listen more and give your opinion less. We live in a world of chatter. When something happens, it’s hard to be with the event because automatically comes in the defining the event, the replaying the event, the whys and the hows and the blah blah blah. We do this in our life and we see it everywhere we look. This is why we have accepted it.
In your life you have the “what is happening” and you have the “explanation of what is happening” I think we live in the explanation much more than the “what is.” If you could for a moment relinquish the explaining and the labeling what would that look like? What if you could live in this present moment, not in --what happened and not in --what is going to happen? Does it sound impossible? It’s not. It just means you have to give up the static in your life that you believe is real. All of the noise that you keep alive is a distraction. You are distracting yourself from being still. Can you be still? In this stillness is everything you are looking for. In this quiet is where I find my peace. I am so grateful for that, I am so grateful that no matter what, my peace is always right there in the moments that I let go and simply be still.
what world are you living in?
Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.
Wayne Dyer
I love that. I always say you find exactly what you are looking for. If you’re looking for things that are wrong and bad then you will for sure find exactly what you are looking for. Our perception and point of reference is everything. If you are angry and bitter than the world is going to appear angry and bitter.
Peace is a state of mind. From a peaceful state of mind you can experience a peaceful existence. Did the circumstances change…no they didn’t but you changed. When you can live in a loving place then the world will appear different. You can see clearer and make better choices.
Don’t wait for something to happen for you to be the person you know you can be. Don’t wait for circumstances to change. Start now.
Today I am grateful for this peaceful moment. My intention is to keep having them. ;)
Wayne Dyer
I love that. I always say you find exactly what you are looking for. If you’re looking for things that are wrong and bad then you will for sure find exactly what you are looking for. Our perception and point of reference is everything. If you are angry and bitter than the world is going to appear angry and bitter.
Peace is a state of mind. From a peaceful state of mind you can experience a peaceful existence. Did the circumstances change…no they didn’t but you changed. When you can live in a loving place then the world will appear different. You can see clearer and make better choices.
Don’t wait for something to happen for you to be the person you know you can be. Don’t wait for circumstances to change. Start now.
Today I am grateful for this peaceful moment. My intention is to keep having them. ;)
today
To the ego, the present moment hardly exists. Only past and future are considered important. This total reversal of the truth accounts for the fact that in the ego mode the mind is so dysfunctional. It is always concerned with keeping the past alive, because without it - who are you?
Eckhart Tolle
Yes. who are you if you aren’t your past? If all of those stories you tell over and over aren’t you then why do we tell them? Some stories we tell because they are funny, some we tell because they are tragic, and some we tell because we don’t know what else to talk about in the now moment. Why wouldn’t you talk about your past? How else would someone get to know you? Maybe we have been trained to believe that. Maybe by speaking in the present about who you are in this moment would be uncomfortable. Maybe declaring is harder to do than telling your stories about what you have done. More than anything it challenges your thinking and makes you aware that your ego only holds on to what was or what may be in the future. The ego keeps you distracted from the now moment, the only moment that counts.
So the question is- who are you? Speak from this moment and see what comes up. Notice your struggle to either go to the past or future to find the definition.
Today I am grateful for my new gig. I’m training to be a ropes course facilitator. More to come on that. ;)
Eckhart Tolle
Yes. who are you if you aren’t your past? If all of those stories you tell over and over aren’t you then why do we tell them? Some stories we tell because they are funny, some we tell because they are tragic, and some we tell because we don’t know what else to talk about in the now moment. Why wouldn’t you talk about your past? How else would someone get to know you? Maybe we have been trained to believe that. Maybe by speaking in the present about who you are in this moment would be uncomfortable. Maybe declaring is harder to do than telling your stories about what you have done. More than anything it challenges your thinking and makes you aware that your ego only holds on to what was or what may be in the future. The ego keeps you distracted from the now moment, the only moment that counts.
So the question is- who are you? Speak from this moment and see what comes up. Notice your struggle to either go to the past or future to find the definition.
Today I am grateful for my new gig. I’m training to be a ropes course facilitator. More to come on that. ;)
expectations of others
Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.
Wayne Dyer
I think it requires you to be alright with where you are to allow someone to be where they are without any expectations of what they should be doing. People are not put in our lives to satisfy us. We are the only ones that can satisfy us. I think we often forget this. We look outside of ourselves for people to please up and do as we think they should. Yea there are a lot of “shoulds” here.
I think you will find a much more peaceful existence when you can let go of your expectations. It’s not easy and definitely takes a lot of practice. If you think about it, how could you ever be happy if you are waiting for people to do and be what you need them to be? Isn’t it hard enough to get yourself to do what you need to do? If you want peace in your life than you must first accept everything as it is and everyone as they are. Yes just like they are right now. You can’t have any buts, I mean exactly as they are right now. It’s tough right because you think well if they just did this if or if they were able to….STOP right there. That’s the part of you that is never going to let you rest, never going to accept life as it is. We all have it. It’s being able to recognize it and make peace with it and hopefully let it go.
This isn’t easy but you are willing then loving someone right where they are will get easier. Today, I am grateful for my family.
Wayne Dyer
I think it requires you to be alright with where you are to allow someone to be where they are without any expectations of what they should be doing. People are not put in our lives to satisfy us. We are the only ones that can satisfy us. I think we often forget this. We look outside of ourselves for people to please up and do as we think they should. Yea there are a lot of “shoulds” here.
I think you will find a much more peaceful existence when you can let go of your expectations. It’s not easy and definitely takes a lot of practice. If you think about it, how could you ever be happy if you are waiting for people to do and be what you need them to be? Isn’t it hard enough to get yourself to do what you need to do? If you want peace in your life than you must first accept everything as it is and everyone as they are. Yes just like they are right now. You can’t have any buts, I mean exactly as they are right now. It’s tough right because you think well if they just did this if or if they were able to….STOP right there. That’s the part of you that is never going to let you rest, never going to accept life as it is. We all have it. It’s being able to recognize it and make peace with it and hopefully let it go.
This isn’t easy but you are willing then loving someone right where they are will get easier. Today, I am grateful for my family.
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