Can you stop blaming and complaining?

You could write a song about some kind of emotional problem you are having, but it would not be a good song, in my eyes, until it went through a period of sensitivity to a moment of clarity. Without that moment of clarity to contribute to the song, it's just complaining.
Joni Mitchell

What would life be like if you no longer blamed or complained? It’s so ingrained in us that most of the time you don’t even know you’re doing it.

Something happens and you immediately find someone or something to blame for the misfortune. And then after you are set on who or what to blame then you can start complaining about it. We do this many times a day. Sometimes it’s big complaints and they can last for years and sometimes it’s just seconds out of your day. I’m sure you have no idea what I am talking about.
Let me be more clear…complaining about what you have, what you don’t have, who took something away, the job you have, the job you don’t have, the relationship you are in, the car you drive….I could keep going, the point is that it’s all a waste of time. Complaining is like external worry. It serves no function other than stagnation. It keeps you in a funk and more important it keeps you stuck. You will never find clarity while complaining and blaming.
You might be thinking but what if I’m upset about something and I need to get it off my chest. Well then you need to vent. Venting is different. Venting is something you set up with someone else and you put a time on it. It’s important to have someone in your life that you can go to and say all the garbage that is in your head. This person needs to be clear that you are venting and you are not looking for support to blame and complain but just good ole venting. Get it out, and say it all and know that in 20 minutes you’re going to move on. If you need to vent again then do it again another day and have clarity on venting time versus complaining. It takes training. We tend to want to stay in ick. It takes work to step out of it.

So can you give complaining and blaming up? How about just for one day? No complaining or blaming for one whole day, can you do it? Let me know how it goes.

Today I am grateful for the water. I am grateful that I get to see the ocean every day.