"Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence"
Eckhart Tolle
I am struggling with being in the present moment. I have some past issues that I can’t seem to let go of and I am concerned about how I am getting where I want to go. Yet the power of both is just being held in my mind where my belief is that either is more powerful than the present. I guess you could say it’s powerful in a debilitating way but certainly not in a way which will create a life that I love. Living a life I love is my intention. Certainly stress, worry, guilt and regret will not get me there. So I write and I share hoping to remember what I forgot, hoping to remind you what you forgot.
It can happen so quickly where you are suddenly living out an old story or you’re fretting about something in the future. I think sometimes we believe that this is normal. Well it’s normal for the ego because the ego only lives in the past or the future. There is no ego in the present moment. Think about that. And think about how often you are living in the present moment? Can you do it for a day? Can you spend a whole day living in this present moment?
Today my intention is to live in the present moment.
I am grateful for the awareness of the present moment.
the natural order of things
Don’t let what you can’t do stop you from doing what you can do.
John Wooden
How many times do you find yourself stuck because you don’t know what direction to go in? I was having a conversation yesterday with someone who feels completely stuck to the point where she is powerless. We have all been here. We are afraid of getting it wrong. We want to do the right thing. We have all stared at our problem hoping for magic to make it disappear. We paralyze ourselves by taking our own expression away. So what do you do when you are in this place? How can you feel powerful? How do you know what direction to go in when you feel confused and indecisive?
When I get to this place and I feel frustrated I know that I am standing in the way of myself. So I tell myself “small steps” Just move in the direction that you think you want to go in, but the key is MOVE! Sitting still and questioning and weighing it out is not good for someone who is stuck. The way you find out what you do want is to discover what you don’t want. The only way to make that happen is by being in action. I am speaking to myself more than anyone out there. I know that this new path of mine is only kept alive if I keep it alive. I too can be extremely hard on myself and forgot constantly what is real for me. We have to build these muscles. We have to work hard to stay present. Only to find that it comes natural once we give into the resistance. When you learn to go with the flow, sounds cliché but it’s so true. When you allow yourself to move downstream and stop fighting what is, then you can have all the gifts of the present. When you allow yourself to be flexible and stop fighting anything and everything, ahhhhh you can have peace and everything will flow to you.
Today I am grateful for my IT business for showing me what I don’t want and giving me many gifts beyond that.
John Wooden
How many times do you find yourself stuck because you don’t know what direction to go in? I was having a conversation yesterday with someone who feels completely stuck to the point where she is powerless. We have all been here. We are afraid of getting it wrong. We want to do the right thing. We have all stared at our problem hoping for magic to make it disappear. We paralyze ourselves by taking our own expression away. So what do you do when you are in this place? How can you feel powerful? How do you know what direction to go in when you feel confused and indecisive?
When I get to this place and I feel frustrated I know that I am standing in the way of myself. So I tell myself “small steps” Just move in the direction that you think you want to go in, but the key is MOVE! Sitting still and questioning and weighing it out is not good for someone who is stuck. The way you find out what you do want is to discover what you don’t want. The only way to make that happen is by being in action. I am speaking to myself more than anyone out there. I know that this new path of mine is only kept alive if I keep it alive. I too can be extremely hard on myself and forgot constantly what is real for me. We have to build these muscles. We have to work hard to stay present. Only to find that it comes natural once we give into the resistance. When you learn to go with the flow, sounds cliché but it’s so true. When you allow yourself to move downstream and stop fighting what is, then you can have all the gifts of the present. When you allow yourself to be flexible and stop fighting anything and everything, ahhhhh you can have peace and everything will flow to you.
Today I am grateful for my IT business for showing me what I don’t want and giving me many gifts beyond that.
get into action
To succeed... you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you. –Tony Dorsett
Throw your hat over the fence and then you have to go and retrieve it! I say this to myself often when I am scared to take a step. It supports you to take a stand or make a declaration and then gives you something to live into. If you put yourself out there in a way that challenges you then you will not have time for worry. If you get into action about your life and your dreams then there is little time for sitting around to analyze what is wrong in your life.
I threw my hat over the fence this weekend. I declared myself a life coach on a National commercial. It was a testimonial and they asked for my business name. I could not say Tek Evolution, because it’s not what I want to be known for anymore. So I spoke out loud that I am a life coach for my company B the Change. It’s amazing what it feels like to honor the part of me that has been hiding out. Waiting. I feel liberated, a little scared but more excited. I can do this and so can you. Don’t wait anymore to do what you have always to do or say. You are your own gatekeeper. Make the move, get into action and watch what unfolds in your life.
Today I am grateful for opportunities in my life that keep me on my toes.
Throw your hat over the fence and then you have to go and retrieve it! I say this to myself often when I am scared to take a step. It supports you to take a stand or make a declaration and then gives you something to live into. If you put yourself out there in a way that challenges you then you will not have time for worry. If you get into action about your life and your dreams then there is little time for sitting around to analyze what is wrong in your life.
I threw my hat over the fence this weekend. I declared myself a life coach on a National commercial. It was a testimonial and they asked for my business name. I could not say Tek Evolution, because it’s not what I want to be known for anymore. So I spoke out loud that I am a life coach for my company B the Change. It’s amazing what it feels like to honor the part of me that has been hiding out. Waiting. I feel liberated, a little scared but more excited. I can do this and so can you. Don’t wait anymore to do what you have always to do or say. You are your own gatekeeper. Make the move, get into action and watch what unfolds in your life.
Today I am grateful for opportunities in my life that keep me on my toes.
getting real
A smooth sea never made a skillful mariner. - Anonymous
So here’s the deal. I am in the middle of making some big changes for myself. I am in-between two worlds. I have the business that supports me and the dream that pulls me forward. And I don’t know where one ends and the other begins. I am in new territory for myself and that is one of the reasons I started this blog. I believe that I have something inside of me to share that is worthwhile for others to benefit.
It is this place in life when we want change and it seems so far away. It can be scary. Every moment is a new opportunity to build a muscle within you. I can so easily doubt myself and feel unsure. It’s a difficult realization that these feelings and how I deal with them is part of the process. We can know something and feel its certainty but the real work starts when we wake up to our own skepticism. No one is there in that moment, in your head when you are filled with doubt. I scramble in this moment to find some indication that I am doing the right thing. Sometimes it’s not there. What I find is more doubt and more reason why not. It can be so hard. I know I am not the only one. I know that no man has accomplished anything without moments of insecurity. It’s how you react that makes you different. I am challenged, no doubt quite often and I am still moving forward.
I want you to have whatever you desire. That’s what makes this relationship special. I am able to share my insights while becoming what I have always meant to be with the intent to help you do the same. The world needs what you have inside you as it needs what’s inside me. We have to show up and shine. There is more than enough to go around. There is only one YOU so please don’t dim your light.
Today I am grateful for the feedback. Thank you for your encouragement.
So here’s the deal. I am in the middle of making some big changes for myself. I am in-between two worlds. I have the business that supports me and the dream that pulls me forward. And I don’t know where one ends and the other begins. I am in new territory for myself and that is one of the reasons I started this blog. I believe that I have something inside of me to share that is worthwhile for others to benefit.
It is this place in life when we want change and it seems so far away. It can be scary. Every moment is a new opportunity to build a muscle within you. I can so easily doubt myself and feel unsure. It’s a difficult realization that these feelings and how I deal with them is part of the process. We can know something and feel its certainty but the real work starts when we wake up to our own skepticism. No one is there in that moment, in your head when you are filled with doubt. I scramble in this moment to find some indication that I am doing the right thing. Sometimes it’s not there. What I find is more doubt and more reason why not. It can be so hard. I know I am not the only one. I know that no man has accomplished anything without moments of insecurity. It’s how you react that makes you different. I am challenged, no doubt quite often and I am still moving forward.
I want you to have whatever you desire. That’s what makes this relationship special. I am able to share my insights while becoming what I have always meant to be with the intent to help you do the same. The world needs what you have inside you as it needs what’s inside me. We have to show up and shine. There is more than enough to go around. There is only one YOU so please don’t dim your light.
Today I am grateful for the feedback. Thank you for your encouragement.
who are you
What a liberation to realize that the voice in my head is not who I am. Who am I then? The one who sees that. Eckhart Tolle
Oooooh I like that a lot. I am not all the mindless chatter that is consuming my brain telling me that I am not good enough that I can’t do something or saying why bother. What is your head telling you right now? Do this… don’t do that…Yes… no. The chatter can be so loud and so powerful at times that we can mistake it for rational thought. I love the idea that if you drop behind that, that chatter box, there is an observer and in that observer is you. Here lies the you that lives in the stillness.
In the process of quieting our mind we can be the observer of the peanut gallery trying to pull us into every direction. Through meditation we can grasp this stillness best. In the quiet space between decision and disconnect there is something so simple that we often miss it. You are here, the you that is calm and inquisitive. The natural curiosity of being human is often overshadowed by this voice. Can you quiet the voice in your head?
Yesterday was one of those days where all I could hear was the chatter. If you let it the voice will take over and run you crazy. That’s what yesterday felt like. I forgot everything and felt scared. It happens to all of us but the important thing is how we handle it. I reached out and had conversations to address it and remind me of what I am doing and where I am heading. Do you reach out when you are in fear? Do you ask for help? We cannot do this alone. We all need support to get to our dreams. We need to vocalize and make action plans. If you really want to live a life that you love than lets break through our old habits and work on some new ones. Like I said before we are on this journey together.
Enjoy a peaceful day today seeing the chatter for what it is and seeing you for who you are.
Today I am grateful for this quiet moment.
Oooooh I like that a lot. I am not all the mindless chatter that is consuming my brain telling me that I am not good enough that I can’t do something or saying why bother. What is your head telling you right now? Do this… don’t do that…Yes… no. The chatter can be so loud and so powerful at times that we can mistake it for rational thought. I love the idea that if you drop behind that, that chatter box, there is an observer and in that observer is you. Here lies the you that lives in the stillness.
In the process of quieting our mind we can be the observer of the peanut gallery trying to pull us into every direction. Through meditation we can grasp this stillness best. In the quiet space between decision and disconnect there is something so simple that we often miss it. You are here, the you that is calm and inquisitive. The natural curiosity of being human is often overshadowed by this voice. Can you quiet the voice in your head?
Yesterday was one of those days where all I could hear was the chatter. If you let it the voice will take over and run you crazy. That’s what yesterday felt like. I forgot everything and felt scared. It happens to all of us but the important thing is how we handle it. I reached out and had conversations to address it and remind me of what I am doing and where I am heading. Do you reach out when you are in fear? Do you ask for help? We cannot do this alone. We all need support to get to our dreams. We need to vocalize and make action plans. If you really want to live a life that you love than lets break through our old habits and work on some new ones. Like I said before we are on this journey together.
Enjoy a peaceful day today seeing the chatter for what it is and seeing you for who you are.
Today I am grateful for this quiet moment.
when's your next play day?
My life is my message.
- Mahatma Ghandi
Can you remember when you learned how to balance on two wheels? It was exhilarating and unexplainable at the same time. You can’t describe balance. You can’t use words to give someone the experience of balance. It just is and one minute after not understanding how- you suddenly experience balance. You get it. You feel liberated by having grasped something that sends chills down your spine. You ride and ride and experience a joy that transcends time and space. Where is that joy? Where is that unexplainable soul freeing exuberating feeling that unlocks your inner child? Are you tapped into this in your life? Do you allow yourself the freedom to explore this in your life?
A good friend of mine always says to those things that are intangible gifts that if we could bottle it up and sell it we could be millionaires. It’s so true. If we could bottle up the moment of grasping something, of attaining a new quality or an Aha moment we would have eternal bliss. The feelings that go with these moments are so exciting and life giving. So why don’t we create more of them? Why are we so hesitant to live out loud and to try new things? If the life you lead is your message than what are you waiting for? Lead a life that inspires you and in turn it will inspire others.
This is the potential of our life. We have ability to live in joy all the time yet we are so worried, stressed, busy, spun out or consumed with getting it right that we lose sight of the simplistic nature that feeds our soul. We grew up and grew out of the things that were the primary source of our joy and laughter. Being an adult doesn’t mean you have to forget who you are. Strip away the things that block you from experiencing life. Because you only have the life you led to leave behind. How do you want to be remembered? Keep untangling the busy-ness and the consumed mind. Step outside of your schedule and do something that challenges your reality. The moments in your life that you break free from your own limitations are the moments that will be remembered and treasured.
Today I am grateful for my play days in Carlsbad. I feel so much joy just thinking about it.
- Mahatma Ghandi
Can you remember when you learned how to balance on two wheels? It was exhilarating and unexplainable at the same time. You can’t describe balance. You can’t use words to give someone the experience of balance. It just is and one minute after not understanding how- you suddenly experience balance. You get it. You feel liberated by having grasped something that sends chills down your spine. You ride and ride and experience a joy that transcends time and space. Where is that joy? Where is that unexplainable soul freeing exuberating feeling that unlocks your inner child? Are you tapped into this in your life? Do you allow yourself the freedom to explore this in your life?
A good friend of mine always says to those things that are intangible gifts that if we could bottle it up and sell it we could be millionaires. It’s so true. If we could bottle up the moment of grasping something, of attaining a new quality or an Aha moment we would have eternal bliss. The feelings that go with these moments are so exciting and life giving. So why don’t we create more of them? Why are we so hesitant to live out loud and to try new things? If the life you lead is your message than what are you waiting for? Lead a life that inspires you and in turn it will inspire others.
This is the potential of our life. We have ability to live in joy all the time yet we are so worried, stressed, busy, spun out or consumed with getting it right that we lose sight of the simplistic nature that feeds our soul. We grew up and grew out of the things that were the primary source of our joy and laughter. Being an adult doesn’t mean you have to forget who you are. Strip away the things that block you from experiencing life. Because you only have the life you led to leave behind. How do you want to be remembered? Keep untangling the busy-ness and the consumed mind. Step outside of your schedule and do something that challenges your reality. The moments in your life that you break free from your own limitations are the moments that will be remembered and treasured.
Today I am grateful for my play days in Carlsbad. I feel so much joy just thinking about it.
no more worry
Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.
Eckhart Tolle
You will never solve your problem by staring at your problem. But yet how many hours do you spend dissecting and re-enacting your problem? We have this belief that if we worry enough or look long enough we will solve it. The truth is that the only way to solve a problem is to step away from the heaviness of it. The life of a problem is prolonged and given so much more validity when we are staring at it and talking about it incessantly.
If you can step away and focus on what works in your life, then you can change your energy around the issue you are having. From there you can have space and freedom to have a new awareness about your problem. This is a difficult thing because we don’t want to leave our problem. And to be clear I am not saying ignore your problem. This will only create a bigger problem. I am saying that if you have something rolling around in your head that you are trying to solve or figure out---- then try leaving it alone for a bit.
If we get fixed on something then most likely there is no breathing room. The obsessive quality about a problem is never part of any solution it only adds more friction and discomfort. There is something to be said about not reacting to situations. Imagine being able to take in a potential problem and not labeling it immediately. If you could have clarity in this moment that something is coming at you that doesn’t feel good and not jump into a position, what would that be like?
I am challenging a way of being that seems so natural. Something happens and you react. Someone cuts you off so you get pissed. Someone says, “you are wrong” so you get defensive. Someone says, “you are no good”, so you believe it or you fight it. Someone says anything that hits you at your core and you immediately react based on whatever cord they just struck. My point is that we react so quickly that most of time we don’t even know how we really feel. Could you just add a pause in there? Just take that extra moment to breathe it in and not react to this external event that we make mean so much. Do you know what a difference that would make for you? It’s astounding how my life has changed just by making this shift. It’s a work in progress. It can be hard not to jump to respond. But just by taking that extra moment something happens where I can separate myself from the problem.
There is freedom is releasing worry. We don’t get anything from worry except anxiety and discomfort. So today I challenge you to put your worry aside and give breathing room to whatever problems you are dealing with…Be present today and enjoy what this day brings.
Today I am grateful for the many opportunities in my life.
Eckhart Tolle
You will never solve your problem by staring at your problem. But yet how many hours do you spend dissecting and re-enacting your problem? We have this belief that if we worry enough or look long enough we will solve it. The truth is that the only way to solve a problem is to step away from the heaviness of it. The life of a problem is prolonged and given so much more validity when we are staring at it and talking about it incessantly.
If you can step away and focus on what works in your life, then you can change your energy around the issue you are having. From there you can have space and freedom to have a new awareness about your problem. This is a difficult thing because we don’t want to leave our problem. And to be clear I am not saying ignore your problem. This will only create a bigger problem. I am saying that if you have something rolling around in your head that you are trying to solve or figure out---- then try leaving it alone for a bit.
If we get fixed on something then most likely there is no breathing room. The obsessive quality about a problem is never part of any solution it only adds more friction and discomfort. There is something to be said about not reacting to situations. Imagine being able to take in a potential problem and not labeling it immediately. If you could have clarity in this moment that something is coming at you that doesn’t feel good and not jump into a position, what would that be like?
I am challenging a way of being that seems so natural. Something happens and you react. Someone cuts you off so you get pissed. Someone says, “you are wrong” so you get defensive. Someone says, “you are no good”, so you believe it or you fight it. Someone says anything that hits you at your core and you immediately react based on whatever cord they just struck. My point is that we react so quickly that most of time we don’t even know how we really feel. Could you just add a pause in there? Just take that extra moment to breathe it in and not react to this external event that we make mean so much. Do you know what a difference that would make for you? It’s astounding how my life has changed just by making this shift. It’s a work in progress. It can be hard not to jump to respond. But just by taking that extra moment something happens where I can separate myself from the problem.
There is freedom is releasing worry. We don’t get anything from worry except anxiety and discomfort. So today I challenge you to put your worry aside and give breathing room to whatever problems you are dealing with…Be present today and enjoy what this day brings.
Today I am grateful for the many opportunities in my life.
change your thoughts
Change your thoughts and you change your world. - Norman Vincent Peale
Yesterday I had the great pleasure of watching a dear friend of mine perform in a play. It’s always a wonderful feeling to watch her act and tap into that part of herself that is so rich with talent. I always get filled up watching her. Yesterday’s play was so real with emotion and raw with truth that it actually stung. It made me feel so uncomfortable at times. I cried and I fidgeted and in the end I sat still. All I wanted was for my friend to know how much I cared about her.
The play was about appearances and the different sides of the same struggle. It didn’t have a happy ending. That was difficult for me and makes me realize how hard it is to stand in sadness. I need a happy ending. I need to know that everything is ok, that everything can get better. I want so desperately to have everything wrapped in a pretty bow, complete with all its parts.
Being in discomfort is hard for all of us. But in these moments there are powerful messages if we choose to explore them. What are you thinking about yourself when you are feeling uncomfortable? Something is being triggered inside you that you don’t like and you want it to go away.
Thoughts are powerful. So powerful that they dictate our lives and create our very existence. We are that powerful that we can actually change our world by changing our thoughts. The character in the play was so desperately trying to be seen as someone other than her weight. But all she thought about was her weight. It's the same to fight for or fight against, either way we are fighting. If we see something as bad or wrong and try to over-compensate we are still left with the same results. We can't solve a problem by staring at the problem. (more on this on another day)
We are hardest on ourselves. We criticize and judge our own lives based on what we see outside of us. We compare where we are and what we have to others. It’s such a natural thing that we think this is how life is supposed to be. If we could only see that we are all struggling with something. So isn’t it silly that we are comparing ourselves to another struggle. No one knows you better than you do. There is something really amazing in the possibility in embracing your own struggle and owning it. You have everything you need. You have all the right parts. You are the answer to your question. You have the capacity to love, to give, to grow and shine. So think about that. Think about your amazing gifts and talents that are beneath your own self doubt. Let go of getting it right. Roll up your sleeves and get dirty. Don’t be afraid to live. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes because you will. And in the mistakes you understand more of what you don’t want. This isn’t new stuff. But it’s being directed to you. You chose to read this today. So what are you going to choose to think about? Go ahead create the life you always wanted….I dare you. We are on this journey together. Let’s create great things.
Today I am grateful for my soundtrack. In the music I find my flexibility and vulnerability. It’s awesome to feel inspired.
Yesterday I had the great pleasure of watching a dear friend of mine perform in a play. It’s always a wonderful feeling to watch her act and tap into that part of herself that is so rich with talent. I always get filled up watching her. Yesterday’s play was so real with emotion and raw with truth that it actually stung. It made me feel so uncomfortable at times. I cried and I fidgeted and in the end I sat still. All I wanted was for my friend to know how much I cared about her.
The play was about appearances and the different sides of the same struggle. It didn’t have a happy ending. That was difficult for me and makes me realize how hard it is to stand in sadness. I need a happy ending. I need to know that everything is ok, that everything can get better. I want so desperately to have everything wrapped in a pretty bow, complete with all its parts.
Being in discomfort is hard for all of us. But in these moments there are powerful messages if we choose to explore them. What are you thinking about yourself when you are feeling uncomfortable? Something is being triggered inside you that you don’t like and you want it to go away.
Thoughts are powerful. So powerful that they dictate our lives and create our very existence. We are that powerful that we can actually change our world by changing our thoughts. The character in the play was so desperately trying to be seen as someone other than her weight. But all she thought about was her weight. It's the same to fight for or fight against, either way we are fighting. If we see something as bad or wrong and try to over-compensate we are still left with the same results. We can't solve a problem by staring at the problem. (more on this on another day)
We are hardest on ourselves. We criticize and judge our own lives based on what we see outside of us. We compare where we are and what we have to others. It’s such a natural thing that we think this is how life is supposed to be. If we could only see that we are all struggling with something. So isn’t it silly that we are comparing ourselves to another struggle. No one knows you better than you do. There is something really amazing in the possibility in embracing your own struggle and owning it. You have everything you need. You have all the right parts. You are the answer to your question. You have the capacity to love, to give, to grow and shine. So think about that. Think about your amazing gifts and talents that are beneath your own self doubt. Let go of getting it right. Roll up your sleeves and get dirty. Don’t be afraid to live. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes because you will. And in the mistakes you understand more of what you don’t want. This isn’t new stuff. But it’s being directed to you. You chose to read this today. So what are you going to choose to think about? Go ahead create the life you always wanted….I dare you. We are on this journey together. Let’s create great things.
Today I am grateful for my soundtrack. In the music I find my flexibility and vulnerability. It’s awesome to feel inspired.
are you happy?
Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have. - Anonymous
I was driving up the coast recently and it was a gorgeous day. I was so happy to be out of the office and away from any demands. I was feeling happy. As we were driving I couldn’t help but look at all the drivers on either side of me. I was asking the question, “Are you happy” I know, what a crazy thing to ask when you are on a freeway. But it occurred to me that we spend so much time getting there that I had to ask myself “Do we ever arrive?” I really did want to roll down the window and ask but decided to save that for another day. ;)
So it brings me back to the question of what is happiness and how do you know if you are happy? What does that mean to you? Where does your mind go? How do you want to respond and what comes out of your mouth? Does it bring up what feels incomplete or did I catch you at a good moment and you feel really happy?!? Is it a state of mind? Is it something you can declare and by that declaration become?
I think it’s important to define the word for yourself. By defining a word it helps you to clarify what you believe. It’s one of those phrases like “How are you” where you go on auto pilot. You reply without even thinking. “Fine, thanks and how are you?” It’s a completely mindless exchange. So I am asking you to ask yourself the tough questions. We will never get the results we want in life if we don’t first ask the questions that make us think.
First you must ask yourself “Are you willing to do the work?”
Are you willing to be authentic even if it means being vulnerable?
Are you willing to invest in the life you have to get the life you want? (Rhonda Britton)
It’s not easy to change your life. I struggle myself with the discipline it takes to break a habit. I just know that when I was driving along the coast that I had a sense of real peace and grasp at what happiness felt like. I like it and I want more of it. I want the freedom to be that present always.
So here I am doing my work. I have been writing for 25 days in this blog and I feel empowered and humbled at the same time. I just want to be a voice that can support you having a better day, a better year or a better life. In supporting you I get so much in return. This feels like happiness to me. I learn and grow everyday and for that I am grateful!
I was driving up the coast recently and it was a gorgeous day. I was so happy to be out of the office and away from any demands. I was feeling happy. As we were driving I couldn’t help but look at all the drivers on either side of me. I was asking the question, “Are you happy” I know, what a crazy thing to ask when you are on a freeway. But it occurred to me that we spend so much time getting there that I had to ask myself “Do we ever arrive?” I really did want to roll down the window and ask but decided to save that for another day. ;)
So it brings me back to the question of what is happiness and how do you know if you are happy? What does that mean to you? Where does your mind go? How do you want to respond and what comes out of your mouth? Does it bring up what feels incomplete or did I catch you at a good moment and you feel really happy?!? Is it a state of mind? Is it something you can declare and by that declaration become?
I think it’s important to define the word for yourself. By defining a word it helps you to clarify what you believe. It’s one of those phrases like “How are you” where you go on auto pilot. You reply without even thinking. “Fine, thanks and how are you?” It’s a completely mindless exchange. So I am asking you to ask yourself the tough questions. We will never get the results we want in life if we don’t first ask the questions that make us think.
First you must ask yourself “Are you willing to do the work?”
Are you willing to be authentic even if it means being vulnerable?
Are you willing to invest in the life you have to get the life you want? (Rhonda Britton)
It’s not easy to change your life. I struggle myself with the discipline it takes to break a habit. I just know that when I was driving along the coast that I had a sense of real peace and grasp at what happiness felt like. I like it and I want more of it. I want the freedom to be that present always.
So here I am doing my work. I have been writing for 25 days in this blog and I feel empowered and humbled at the same time. I just want to be a voice that can support you having a better day, a better year or a better life. In supporting you I get so much in return. This feels like happiness to me. I learn and grow everyday and for that I am grateful!
give more than you get
There is a wonderful mythical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life - happiness, freedom and peace of mind - are always attained by giving them to someone else.
Peyton Conway March
Sometimes we forget about the world around us because we are so focused on our own problems. It is this focus on our problem, that gives us more problem. If we can change that focus to something else or someone else that needs our attention or support, we can shift our own perception. Funny enough we are actually afraid to take our eye off our own problem because….we are afraid to lose track of it?!? Really? That does sound crazy and we do it. We don’t want to leave our problem unattended. We want to keep talking about it. We want to find a solution in the insanity of it.
So what if you step away from your problem. Whether it be financial, relationship, or work, – what if you stepped outside of it? What if you turn all of that energy into giving energy? What if you turn that very need you have into fulfilling someone else’s need? I know it’s scary to leave our problem but it’s scarier if you don’t.
Today look outside of yourself and see where someone else is struggling and give them the kindness and support that are so hungry for. You can change someone’s life to today.
I am so thankful for all of the amazing givers in my life. It is because of you and the amazing nature of your giving that inspire me to give more.
Peyton Conway March
Sometimes we forget about the world around us because we are so focused on our own problems. It is this focus on our problem, that gives us more problem. If we can change that focus to something else or someone else that needs our attention or support, we can shift our own perception. Funny enough we are actually afraid to take our eye off our own problem because….we are afraid to lose track of it?!? Really? That does sound crazy and we do it. We don’t want to leave our problem unattended. We want to keep talking about it. We want to find a solution in the insanity of it.
So what if you step away from your problem. Whether it be financial, relationship, or work, – what if you stepped outside of it? What if you turn all of that energy into giving energy? What if you turn that very need you have into fulfilling someone else’s need? I know it’s scary to leave our problem but it’s scarier if you don’t.
Today look outside of yourself and see where someone else is struggling and give them the kindness and support that are so hungry for. You can change someone’s life to today.
I am so thankful for all of the amazing givers in my life. It is because of you and the amazing nature of your giving that inspire me to give more.
knowing our greatness
The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.
- Wayne Dyer
Wow how simply put and profound. So the question is- what is the state of your mind? What do you have going on in your head and what are you manifesting in your life?
If your thoughts create your existence then you would think that we would only fill our minds with great things. Unfortunately that is not the case. We participate in so many contradicting actions that we don’t even know we are doing it. We might say we want wonderful things in our life and then we participate in gossip. Or we spend our day half awake in a fog of “do what is in front of me.” You get my point. We are contradicting ourselves. How do you contradict yourself? How do you send mixed messages?
The time is now for you to declare who you are and what you want in your life. If you want to be an artist, then be an artist. If you want to change directions in your life then start making the steps. Stop getting in the way of yourself. We wait for external circumstances to dictate when it is ok to have the life we want. We constantly send out mixed messages because we battle what we intuitively know and our fear of not becoming it. If we only got that ‘becoming’ is when we allow ourselves to unfold. It’s not anything added to you. It’s actually just the stripping away of all the false ideas you have adopted about yourself. You already have everything you need.
It’s about uncovering your own special gifts and talents that only you can give the world. The world is waiting for you to show up. The state of your life depends on it.
Today I am grateful for my special gifts and talents.
- Wayne Dyer
Wow how simply put and profound. So the question is- what is the state of your mind? What do you have going on in your head and what are you manifesting in your life?
If your thoughts create your existence then you would think that we would only fill our minds with great things. Unfortunately that is not the case. We participate in so many contradicting actions that we don’t even know we are doing it. We might say we want wonderful things in our life and then we participate in gossip. Or we spend our day half awake in a fog of “do what is in front of me.” You get my point. We are contradicting ourselves. How do you contradict yourself? How do you send mixed messages?
The time is now for you to declare who you are and what you want in your life. If you want to be an artist, then be an artist. If you want to change directions in your life then start making the steps. Stop getting in the way of yourself. We wait for external circumstances to dictate when it is ok to have the life we want. We constantly send out mixed messages because we battle what we intuitively know and our fear of not becoming it. If we only got that ‘becoming’ is when we allow ourselves to unfold. It’s not anything added to you. It’s actually just the stripping away of all the false ideas you have adopted about yourself. You already have everything you need.
It’s about uncovering your own special gifts and talents that only you can give the world. The world is waiting for you to show up. The state of your life depends on it.
Today I am grateful for my special gifts and talents.
fear to freedom
"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be."
Lao Zi
We fight so hard for our life. We want to get it right. We want to be liked. We want to win. And we will do anything for those causes. What if we could let go? What if we could stop looking inward so much and look outward more. What if you surrounded yourself with people who see the best in you? How would that change your inward view? If we are all just a mirror for each other then why are we afraid of someone else’s success. Why do we judge so harshly?
I have found that when I truly celebrate someone’s victory it really fills me up. It’s exciting to see someone succeed. I think somewhere along the line we were taught there was only so much to go around so we should grab it up. The truth is that there is more than enough to go around. We all have different wants and desires and for everyone to reach their dreams would only make for a friendlier world. We can root people on because their success is our success. It’s like a feel good movie all the time.
Maybe it sounds impossible but it couldn’t hurt. We spend so much time living in scarcity and lack that it’s no accident that we feel that we don’t have enough. I know for myself that it is all a mind shift. I know that if I am living in fear than everything seems bleak. There doesn’t seem to be a way out. But if I am living in freedom, I don’t need to get out of anything. I just feel free and none of my circumstances have changed. I just realize that I am ok and I don’t need anything.
ease and grace
“Thinking isolates a situation or event and calls it good or bad, as if it had a separate existence. Through excessive reliance on thinking, reality becomes fragmented. This fragmentation is an illusion, but seems very real while you are trapped in it.”
Eckhart Tolle
In breaking apart my moment to moment thoughts, I am acutely aware of my mood. I fluctuate greatly. If everything is exactly as it is supposed to be in this moment then why does it feel so uncomfortable? I can’t seem to find the peace in my mind. I am trapped in this illusion. I feel as though I need some things to go away before I can be at ease. Again I am my own guinea pig. If only the circumstances were different. If only I could be different. If only I could make this just go away. Ah the sounds of being uncomfortable.
It’s almost easier to be physically uncomfortable rather than emotionally uncomfortable.
It’s so wonderful when you feel at ease and there is nothing troubling you. But it is in these moments of discomfort that you get to reach inside yourself and find a reason to stretch. It’s hard and this is when I want to quit writing. And in this moment is when I know I need to write the most. If I don’t uncover this for myself then I can never uncover it for someone else.
This is what makes us human. We have thought and process and when we work through something rather than ignore it, we get to uncover a greater capacity within our self. We are ever evolving beings with such a capacity of love and understanding beyond our wildest dreams. It’s like we play half court never realizing we could use the full court. I said I want to play full court and as a result I am getting more and more opportunities to expand. It’s not always fun but somewhere in it I get to be aware of my own growth. I get to witness my own change.
Don’t be afraid of what shows up. If you can always remember that no matter what! you are ok. You have the power to slow down and quiet down your mind. As long as you are living with intention of what your greater desire is than all the stuff in the middle is workable.
Our thoughts about ourselves are what drive us. What you think is what you create. So what are you thinking? And as a result what are you creating?
Today I am thinking that I am going to be a great life coach and therefore creating a day of ease and grace.
Eckhart Tolle
In breaking apart my moment to moment thoughts, I am acutely aware of my mood. I fluctuate greatly. If everything is exactly as it is supposed to be in this moment then why does it feel so uncomfortable? I can’t seem to find the peace in my mind. I am trapped in this illusion. I feel as though I need some things to go away before I can be at ease. Again I am my own guinea pig. If only the circumstances were different. If only I could be different. If only I could make this just go away. Ah the sounds of being uncomfortable.
It’s almost easier to be physically uncomfortable rather than emotionally uncomfortable.
It’s so wonderful when you feel at ease and there is nothing troubling you. But it is in these moments of discomfort that you get to reach inside yourself and find a reason to stretch. It’s hard and this is when I want to quit writing. And in this moment is when I know I need to write the most. If I don’t uncover this for myself then I can never uncover it for someone else.
This is what makes us human. We have thought and process and when we work through something rather than ignore it, we get to uncover a greater capacity within our self. We are ever evolving beings with such a capacity of love and understanding beyond our wildest dreams. It’s like we play half court never realizing we could use the full court. I said I want to play full court and as a result I am getting more and more opportunities to expand. It’s not always fun but somewhere in it I get to be aware of my own growth. I get to witness my own change.
Don’t be afraid of what shows up. If you can always remember that no matter what! you are ok. You have the power to slow down and quiet down your mind. As long as you are living with intention of what your greater desire is than all the stuff in the middle is workable.
Our thoughts about ourselves are what drive us. What you think is what you create. So what are you thinking? And as a result what are you creating?
Today I am thinking that I am going to be a great life coach and therefore creating a day of ease and grace.
just the truth
I feel stopped up. Don’t feel any joy. Feel like I’m bad. Feel like I don’t deserve a vacation. Just plain feel blah. I haven’t seen Normy. I am letting her down. Money is tight. Not really motivated. Feel lost. I don’t feel passion. I feel overwhelmed. My house is a mess. I am lazy. I can’t get it all together.
BLAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Ok so that’s what’s really going on in my head at the moment. I am struggling to find the place in me that knows better. Literally as I am typing I know it’s there and I am searching. I stop typing, close my eyes. If I can just breathe, I can stop all of the conversations in my head. I know these thoughts are just thoughts and if I can let them go by and find my way out, I can find some peace.
Have you ever been here? I already want to erase the top paragraph. I don’t want to be seen as weak. Interesting how that comes up. If I say what’s really on my mind then I am being weak. Well it sure doesn’t feel weak, it feels vulnerable. I can be ok with that. I want to grow through this blog. I want it to be an opportunity to go into the crevices where neither good nor bad exists. We all can find happiness in great news, in big events and we know how to be sad in devastating times. It’s the in-between times when you are just rolling along. You know you are heading somewhere but you start to doubt and forget what you have you have set out to become. These are the moments that we rush to fill this void. We can easily get drunk or get into some good gossip or buy something that gives us a rush. We need to feel elevated so there must be something we can do to feel better. This is the trap. You will find your greatest strength if in these moments you can remain still and simply find the strength within yourself.
Just by sharing I already feel a sense of relief. I am starting to remember. It’s like a muscle that you have to work out every day. If you move through life with a point of reference for what is your truth then you can keep moving in the direction of your dreams.
“It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion, it is easy in solitude to live after your own; but the great man is he who, in the midst of the world, keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Today I am grateful for the music in my ears that calms me and gets me in touch with my peaceful center.
BLAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Ok so that’s what’s really going on in my head at the moment. I am struggling to find the place in me that knows better. Literally as I am typing I know it’s there and I am searching. I stop typing, close my eyes. If I can just breathe, I can stop all of the conversations in my head. I know these thoughts are just thoughts and if I can let them go by and find my way out, I can find some peace.
Have you ever been here? I already want to erase the top paragraph. I don’t want to be seen as weak. Interesting how that comes up. If I say what’s really on my mind then I am being weak. Well it sure doesn’t feel weak, it feels vulnerable. I can be ok with that. I want to grow through this blog. I want it to be an opportunity to go into the crevices where neither good nor bad exists. We all can find happiness in great news, in big events and we know how to be sad in devastating times. It’s the in-between times when you are just rolling along. You know you are heading somewhere but you start to doubt and forget what you have you have set out to become. These are the moments that we rush to fill this void. We can easily get drunk or get into some good gossip or buy something that gives us a rush. We need to feel elevated so there must be something we can do to feel better. This is the trap. You will find your greatest strength if in these moments you can remain still and simply find the strength within yourself.
Just by sharing I already feel a sense of relief. I am starting to remember. It’s like a muscle that you have to work out every day. If you move through life with a point of reference for what is your truth then you can keep moving in the direction of your dreams.
“It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion, it is easy in solitude to live after your own; but the great man is he who, in the midst of the world, keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Today I am grateful for the music in my ears that calms me and gets me in touch with my peaceful center.
the basics
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.
When life gets fuzzy and you don’t know where to turn, read the four agreements. It’s the basics. By reading these agreements you get to step back into a calm place. Realize that your word is who you create yourself to be. We sometimes speak so frivolously, thinking our words are meaningless. We speak in ways that are harmful. We speak to fill the void. If you speak in a respectful way not only to others but to yourself, what would show up in your life? If you do what you say you are going to do then life will be effortless. And if you fall short of your agreements than clean it up and move on. If we dislodge ourselves from the abuse that we give ourselves for not measuring up then maybe we can get somewhere. No one can cause more harm than we do to our own psyche.
If we take things personally then we get stuck on what someone thinks about us. For me I can get so spun out when I have all my attention outside of me. I feel hurt and taken advantage of or angry. All of these emotions are disempowering. All of these emotions take me off of my path and into a place of spinning out. I cannot control everything outside of me. I can only do my best and do what I say I am going to do. I cannot assume anything about anyone else or their actions. If I do- it is a set up to expect something. These are not easy habits to break. Yes, that’s what I called them…habits. These are learned behaviors. We were taught to take things personally and to make assumptions. But if you want real freedom in your life and no drama then stop making assumptions and stop taking things personally.
It really is a breath of fresh air when you don’t have to get caught up in drama. Life is amazing and exciting, live in that place. Let people be who they need to be. Do your best to keep on your side of the road and enjoy your experience. Life occurs differently to everyone and its your choice to make that mean something. You have the power to create anything you want, so DO IT!
Today I am grateful for Cecilia helping me not take things personally.
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.
When life gets fuzzy and you don’t know where to turn, read the four agreements. It’s the basics. By reading these agreements you get to step back into a calm place. Realize that your word is who you create yourself to be. We sometimes speak so frivolously, thinking our words are meaningless. We speak in ways that are harmful. We speak to fill the void. If you speak in a respectful way not only to others but to yourself, what would show up in your life? If you do what you say you are going to do then life will be effortless. And if you fall short of your agreements than clean it up and move on. If we dislodge ourselves from the abuse that we give ourselves for not measuring up then maybe we can get somewhere. No one can cause more harm than we do to our own psyche.
If we take things personally then we get stuck on what someone thinks about us. For me I can get so spun out when I have all my attention outside of me. I feel hurt and taken advantage of or angry. All of these emotions are disempowering. All of these emotions take me off of my path and into a place of spinning out. I cannot control everything outside of me. I can only do my best and do what I say I am going to do. I cannot assume anything about anyone else or their actions. If I do- it is a set up to expect something. These are not easy habits to break. Yes, that’s what I called them…habits. These are learned behaviors. We were taught to take things personally and to make assumptions. But if you want real freedom in your life and no drama then stop making assumptions and stop taking things personally.
It really is a breath of fresh air when you don’t have to get caught up in drama. Life is amazing and exciting, live in that place. Let people be who they need to be. Do your best to keep on your side of the road and enjoy your experience. Life occurs differently to everyone and its your choice to make that mean something. You have the power to create anything you want, so DO IT!
Today I am grateful for Cecilia helping me not take things personally.
back to center
Listen to peoples stories, and you'll find that they could all be entitled "Why I Cannot Be at Peace Now." The ego doesn't know that your only opportunity for being at peace is now.
Eckhart Tolle
This is such a great quote. It's a reminder to be conscious of what is coming out of your mouth. We tell our story without batting an eye. The story that we tell is the very thing that keeps us from living in the present moment. We have this need to be heard and have sympathy and we will do anything to get it. If you focus on what happened to you and why it was so horrible than you will continue to experience more discomfort. We think that agreement to our story will cure us. Unfortunately, it will only bring you more ammunition to remain bitter or angry.
So why do we do this? Why do we actually fight to remain stuck? Because we don't see it. Everyone is telling their story. Most of the time when we use the word "because" it is usually followed by a story of how or why we are not able to show up in a situation. The story is the thing we set up to explain our position. We can have lots of stories but usually the most prevalent ones or the ones from our childhood. We tell these stories to ourselves and others as if they have real relevance in our lives today. We use them to define us and to get empathy.
If I am telling my story then I am not living my life. This is the hard truth. There is a distinction between reminiscing and living in the past. Reminiscing can bring you joy in the moment or allow you to connect with someone from the past. But living in that moment as tho its life in the present is the trap. This is the illusion that engulfs our time and energy.
The now moment without ego is freedom, the now moment in ego is an endless story that you are so desperately trying to keep alive. Where do you live your life? What are you trying to convince yourself? What if you stopped telling your story? What would you do with the space?
I used to think I had to attain a certain level to then be fully expressed. I had to be something more or have a certain credential to prove my worth. I am really getting that it is already in me and the story I have been telling myself is based in fear of failing. My story is falling away. I feel empowered to uncover more. I am grateful for this insight.
Eckhart Tolle
This is such a great quote. It's a reminder to be conscious of what is coming out of your mouth. We tell our story without batting an eye. The story that we tell is the very thing that keeps us from living in the present moment. We have this need to be heard and have sympathy and we will do anything to get it. If you focus on what happened to you and why it was so horrible than you will continue to experience more discomfort. We think that agreement to our story will cure us. Unfortunately, it will only bring you more ammunition to remain bitter or angry.
So why do we do this? Why do we actually fight to remain stuck? Because we don't see it. Everyone is telling their story. Most of the time when we use the word "because" it is usually followed by a story of how or why we are not able to show up in a situation. The story is the thing we set up to explain our position. We can have lots of stories but usually the most prevalent ones or the ones from our childhood. We tell these stories to ourselves and others as if they have real relevance in our lives today. We use them to define us and to get empathy.
If I am telling my story then I am not living my life. This is the hard truth. There is a distinction between reminiscing and living in the past. Reminiscing can bring you joy in the moment or allow you to connect with someone from the past. But living in that moment as tho its life in the present is the trap. This is the illusion that engulfs our time and energy.
The now moment without ego is freedom, the now moment in ego is an endless story that you are so desperately trying to keep alive. Where do you live your life? What are you trying to convince yourself? What if you stopped telling your story? What would you do with the space?
I used to think I had to attain a certain level to then be fully expressed. I had to be something more or have a certain credential to prove my worth. I am really getting that it is already in me and the story I have been telling myself is based in fear of failing. My story is falling away. I feel empowered to uncover more. I am grateful for this insight.
So many things are happening around me that bring up so many different emotions. Do you ever have days like this? Do you have moments where you feel like you can't process fast enough because so much is coming your way. I just want to sit and take it in and not react to it. I feel a lump in my throat. I want to cry but I am not sad.
I guess I am feeling so many contradicting feelings. My uncle passed away and I am sad for my dad. My brother is sick in the hospital and there are no answers. I am sad for a friend who's daughter is missing. I am frustrated with the burden I sometimes feel with my business and that I can't please everyone. But then I am happy for my wonderful connection with Jeff. I am happy for my new found love of surfing. I am happy that I am becoming a life coach. I just feel everything intensely right now.
So in this moment I have to say to myself what can I learn? What can I get and what can I give? We all want a formula. We want someone to tell us what to do. I can't tell you what to do. I can just share my insights and hope they inspire you. We all have the power within us to choose how we perceive the events in our lives. We can make it personal or we can see life as life. It just is, people get sick, unfortunate things happen and we keep moving forward. It just highlights the NOW. What are you doing about your life now? We have the power to create anything we choose, so why don't we choose better?
It is my challenge to take what I feel and make it empower me. If I let myself feel it all and come to a place of peace then I can move through it. If you resist sadness or resist what is --then you prolong your pain. We attach so much to our pain and that is the part that debilitates us. If you can allow yourself to be sad then you get to reach the other side of the pain. Be vulnerable, let yourself have permission to be sad. It's so freeing to reach the other side. There is a quiet freedom where no matter what happens, I know that I have me and thats a pretty valuable commodity. You matter and you are the only constant in your life. So live outloud and be grateful for everything in your life. Without the sad moments we could never recognize the beautiful moments.
Today I am grateful for my family, I love you all very much!
I guess I am feeling so many contradicting feelings. My uncle passed away and I am sad for my dad. My brother is sick in the hospital and there are no answers. I am sad for a friend who's daughter is missing. I am frustrated with the burden I sometimes feel with my business and that I can't please everyone. But then I am happy for my wonderful connection with Jeff. I am happy for my new found love of surfing. I am happy that I am becoming a life coach. I just feel everything intensely right now.
So in this moment I have to say to myself what can I learn? What can I get and what can I give? We all want a formula. We want someone to tell us what to do. I can't tell you what to do. I can just share my insights and hope they inspire you. We all have the power within us to choose how we perceive the events in our lives. We can make it personal or we can see life as life. It just is, people get sick, unfortunate things happen and we keep moving forward. It just highlights the NOW. What are you doing about your life now? We have the power to create anything we choose, so why don't we choose better?
It is my challenge to take what I feel and make it empower me. If I let myself feel it all and come to a place of peace then I can move through it. If you resist sadness or resist what is --then you prolong your pain. We attach so much to our pain and that is the part that debilitates us. If you can allow yourself to be sad then you get to reach the other side of the pain. Be vulnerable, let yourself have permission to be sad. It's so freeing to reach the other side. There is a quiet freedom where no matter what happens, I know that I have me and thats a pretty valuable commodity. You matter and you are the only constant in your life. So live outloud and be grateful for everything in your life. Without the sad moments we could never recognize the beautiful moments.
Today I am grateful for my family, I love you all very much!
let go
The remnants of pain left behind by every strong negative emotion that is not fully faced, accepted, and then let go of join together to form an energy field that lives in the very cells of your body.
Eckhart Tolle
This is the card I picked yesterday. I pick one everyday as a way of changing my attention and focus onto what is at the root of my life rather than whats on the surface. This card shows up for me periodically. It says so much to me --that you can't run from pain or ignore it. At the root of all pain is some feeling that you are inadequate or wrong or just not good enough. We never want to look at that. It so much easier to just blame blame blame.
It's not easy to face pain, not easy to sit in sadness and not try to change it. We live a society that has a solution for everything. We have so many distractions out there ready to give us a reason not to deal with our life. We don't have to go far. It's effortless to to be consumed with everything but the thing that will give us freedom. It takes great effort and courage to stop and deal with the things in our life that aren't working.
We are a society of people stuffing our closets full of all the burdens in our life, the things we choose to flat out deny their existence and the "I will deal with that later" category. And in the end the closet door can't remain closed, it will bust open. Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we cause us so much more grief and heartache? What if today you chose one thing to deal with? What if you pulled one thing out of the closet and looked it in the eye and put it in its place?
Eckhart Tolle
This is the card I picked yesterday. I pick one everyday as a way of changing my attention and focus onto what is at the root of my life rather than whats on the surface. This card shows up for me periodically. It says so much to me --that you can't run from pain or ignore it. At the root of all pain is some feeling that you are inadequate or wrong or just not good enough. We never want to look at that. It so much easier to just blame blame blame.
It's not easy to face pain, not easy to sit in sadness and not try to change it. We live a society that has a solution for everything. We have so many distractions out there ready to give us a reason not to deal with our life. We don't have to go far. It's effortless to to be consumed with everything but the thing that will give us freedom. It takes great effort and courage to stop and deal with the things in our life that aren't working.
We are a society of people stuffing our closets full of all the burdens in our life, the things we choose to flat out deny their existence and the "I will deal with that later" category. And in the end the closet door can't remain closed, it will bust open. Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we cause us so much more grief and heartache? What if today you chose one thing to deal with? What if you pulled one thing out of the closet and looked it in the eye and put it in its place?
There is freedom on the other side of the pain. There is great sigh of relief to let go of being right. If you can make peace with a situation, then make peace with it. The cost of letting it sit in your closet, is your life. Stillness comes at the cost of letting go of your position. If you can live in the place of joy and abundance then the rest will correct itself.
I am so grateful to have a family that challenges me and my commitment to this path. Our families give us great opportunities to really see where we are on our life path. They can trigger us like no one else. They can shine a light on things that anger us and make us feel crazy. Well at least mine can. ;) It doesn't change that I love them more than anything in the world. But what a great opportunity they provide me to look at the parts of me that can get so infuriated after spending time with them. Every time I get a little better. Every visit I get to be more me. It's truly an amazing gift you can give yourself. Just try letting go.
Today I am grateful for my abundant life. Today I am letting go.
wonderful, beautiful, peaceful space
Someone asked me, what my blog was about the other day? Interesting question because I don't feel that it's necessarily about what I am doing day to day. It's more a look at my journey in becoming a life coach and what it's bringing up for me. It's about trying to get somewhere. It's about the struggle with our own desire to be more or better, whatever the description is for wanting to be something else. We are so seldom just happy to be. There is always something over there that we are trying to get to. If we could just get over this hurdle than everything will be ok?!?
Our lives are a perpetual car race with occasional pit stops. What if you pulled out of the race? What if you went in a different direction? What if you just simply got out of the car, sat on the hood and sat back? What if you just took in your surroundings? Can you?
Just stop, stop your thoughts, stop your planning, stop your lists!!!!
I think there is a part of us that believes we will fall apart, like the stuff somehow holds us together. The stuff is as important and distracting as we have set it up to be. If we can detach from it and get over this false idea, there is something beautiful on the other side.
Someone once said to me that music is about the space between the notes. I thought that was beautiful and so true to life. If we pause, like now and just take a deep breath...............inhale.......................................................
exhale...........................................................
It snaps us out of our cycle of do do do. Space is such a beautiful thing. If you have space in your mind, you can think clearly. If you have a home that isn't filled up in every corner with stuff, you can breathe easier. If you have space in your relationships you can have the freedom to grow in them.
We get so afraid of space sometimes. Like space in conversations, we think every moment needs to be filled up with words. I think if you can really appreciate your space and respect someone else's you can have a more peaceful existence.
This blog for me is about maintaining a more peaceful existence. It's about diving into the parts of me and society that we don't easily talk about. We can read books and talk the talk but the bottom line is how do I show up in my own life? How do I make people feel? How do I handle difficult situations? How do I handle sadness? It's all part of being human and I have a choice every moment of every day whether I want to play out big or play it small. I don't always make the best choices but I do recognize when I am off center with myself. All I can do is work my way back and continue on.
I am grateful to have space, I am grateful for the relationships in my life that are supporting and nurturing this part of me and giving me the space to come out and be more myself.
Our lives are a perpetual car race with occasional pit stops. What if you pulled out of the race? What if you went in a different direction? What if you just simply got out of the car, sat on the hood and sat back? What if you just took in your surroundings? Can you?
Just stop, stop your thoughts, stop your planning, stop your lists!!!!
I think there is a part of us that believes we will fall apart, like the stuff somehow holds us together. The stuff is as important and distracting as we have set it up to be. If we can detach from it and get over this false idea, there is something beautiful on the other side.
Someone once said to me that music is about the space between the notes. I thought that was beautiful and so true to life. If we pause, like now and just take a deep breath...............inhale.......................................................
exhale...........................................................
It snaps us out of our cycle of do do do. Space is such a beautiful thing. If you have space in your mind, you can think clearly. If you have a home that isn't filled up in every corner with stuff, you can breathe easier. If you have space in your relationships you can have the freedom to grow in them.
We get so afraid of space sometimes. Like space in conversations, we think every moment needs to be filled up with words. I think if you can really appreciate your space and respect someone else's you can have a more peaceful existence.
This blog for me is about maintaining a more peaceful existence. It's about diving into the parts of me and society that we don't easily talk about. We can read books and talk the talk but the bottom line is how do I show up in my own life? How do I make people feel? How do I handle difficult situations? How do I handle sadness? It's all part of being human and I have a choice every moment of every day whether I want to play out big or play it small. I don't always make the best choices but I do recognize when I am off center with myself. All I can do is work my way back and continue on.
I am grateful to have space, I am grateful for the relationships in my life that are supporting and nurturing this part of me and giving me the space to come out and be more myself.
burning desire
Being on the water all day yesterday was such a gift. Learning to surf with a Professional surfer was even more amazing. How many times in our adult lives are we open to learning something new? I realized out there on the water that I don't honor my desires. So much so that I don't even know what they are anymore. I have been so busy trying to create something that I lost site of those things that make me feel alive inside. Being on the water taps into that. As a child I spent most of my time swimming or skiing and as an adult I put it away. Much like we put our toys away as children. How many things in your life have you left behind because you have more serious things to deal with? We want to white knuckle our way through life sometimes to get through the hard parts.
That's the message that was taught. Just get through it. Well I think something is missing. The very part of ourselves that feels compelled to be playful and learn something new is the part that will free you. The missing piece to get through the current tough time is stepping outside of it and tapping into a different part of you that is ageless.
As I was on the water I felt that burning desire within me that wants to embrace learning something new. I was committed to the process and no matter how tired I felt, I was moved by the idea that I am a surfer. It was all a metaphor for something much deeper within me. I tapped into the part of me that knows I can do anything I put my attention on. It's different than the part of me that thinks I can make anything happen. Because I am definitely someone that will kill myself making something happen. This was different, it was a gentle strong tug. It pulled me forward. I am getting it. I really am, there is a distinction between being pushed to do something and being pulled towards it. If I am flexible and available for what is possible in my life then there is no struggle. I just have to show up for it. The details will simply unfold.
What is your burning desire? Can you allow yourself the time and space to investigate that question?
Today, I am showing up with excitement and enthusiasm for my amazing life. I am grateful for the opportunity to learn something new.
That's the message that was taught. Just get through it. Well I think something is missing. The very part of ourselves that feels compelled to be playful and learn something new is the part that will free you. The missing piece to get through the current tough time is stepping outside of it and tapping into a different part of you that is ageless.
As I was on the water I felt that burning desire within me that wants to embrace learning something new. I was committed to the process and no matter how tired I felt, I was moved by the idea that I am a surfer. It was all a metaphor for something much deeper within me. I tapped into the part of me that knows I can do anything I put my attention on. It's different than the part of me that thinks I can make anything happen. Because I am definitely someone that will kill myself making something happen. This was different, it was a gentle strong tug. It pulled me forward. I am getting it. I really am, there is a distinction between being pushed to do something and being pulled towards it. If I am flexible and available for what is possible in my life then there is no struggle. I just have to show up for it. The details will simply unfold.
What is your burning desire? Can you allow yourself the time and space to investigate that question?
Today, I am showing up with excitement and enthusiasm for my amazing life. I am grateful for the opportunity to learn something new.
shine a light on it
Feeling excited this morning. It's been a long time since I have felt this way. I am taking a day for me, going surfing again. I feel invigorated. I have worked so hard for months and in doing so have misplaced my zest for life. Funny how that can happen, we get busy and forget to breathe, forget to live, forget to participate in people's lives.
Writing this blog is keeping me accountable. After writing for a week I am now looking back over the week and see how many fears I walked through. I had some difficult conversations, showed up for others and now am being accountable to my highest self. It's truly amazing what we have the power to accomplish if we shine a light on it. If you don't say it, claim it or commit to what you want in life- then you just get caught up in it. It's so easy to get lost and lose track of time.
So wake up!!! Take this moment to step back and look at your life. Are you where you want to be? Break it down, look at your day, what are you filling it with? If there is no correlation between the wanted end result and the day schedule, then ask yourself, How am I going to get what I want out of life?
We are the producer, director and actor of our life. What are you writing?
I'm writing to save my life. I'm writing to discover myself. It can be scary out here. I'm sharing and getting closer to the parts of me that want to stay anonymous. But I realize more and more everyday that it is in being vulnerable that I can touch lives and make a difference in the world. It's not easy to say that I'm scared. It's not easy to put my blog on facebook. But if I don't, if I let my fear stop me than I am staying in a box and I am being safe. I want to walk through a fear everyday and I want to share about it. I have been on a long journey and want to show up as me. If you like it, let me know.
Writing this blog is keeping me accountable. After writing for a week I am now looking back over the week and see how many fears I walked through. I had some difficult conversations, showed up for others and now am being accountable to my highest self. It's truly amazing what we have the power to accomplish if we shine a light on it. If you don't say it, claim it or commit to what you want in life- then you just get caught up in it. It's so easy to get lost and lose track of time.
So wake up!!! Take this moment to step back and look at your life. Are you where you want to be? Break it down, look at your day, what are you filling it with? If there is no correlation between the wanted end result and the day schedule, then ask yourself, How am I going to get what I want out of life?
We are the producer, director and actor of our life. What are you writing?
I'm writing to save my life. I'm writing to discover myself. It can be scary out here. I'm sharing and getting closer to the parts of me that want to stay anonymous. But I realize more and more everyday that it is in being vulnerable that I can touch lives and make a difference in the world. It's not easy to say that I'm scared. It's not easy to put my blog on facebook. But if I don't, if I let my fear stop me than I am staying in a box and I am being safe. I want to walk through a fear everyday and I want to share about it. I have been on a long journey and want to show up as me. If you like it, let me know.
Living in a box
If I am always needing to be better than
or
I see myself as less than
I never get to be at peace.
It's so ingrained in us to compare ourselves. We were taught this as children and encouraged to keep it up as adults. We do it without thought and accept it as a way of being. What if there is another way? What if you could refrain from the judgement? In comparing, we set ourselves up for failure or just simply feed our ego.
Personally speaking, it's one of my greatest challenges to quiet down the voice that wants to tell me that someone is better or that I am better. I struggle with how certain people perceive me. And then the flip side are the people that I encounter that I judge and make assumptions about. If we could just allow people to show up and be who they are, what would be possible? Its so automatic that we judge and put people in little boxes. I don't know about you, but I don't want to fit in a box. I am a multifaceted human being as we all are.
We can sometimes be hardest on ourselves. I realize that the more I don't put you in a box the more I let myself out of my own box. And everyday I am feeling more empowered to be even more of myself, to take the lid off of my box. As I write I am giving the part of me that wants to express itself- a voice. I am tapping into my ability to be fearless. I want to share without compromise. I want to be a space for people to live outside of their box. I want to be a space for you to feel free.
or
I see myself as less than
I never get to be at peace.
It's so ingrained in us to compare ourselves. We were taught this as children and encouraged to keep it up as adults. We do it without thought and accept it as a way of being. What if there is another way? What if you could refrain from the judgement? In comparing, we set ourselves up for failure or just simply feed our ego.
Personally speaking, it's one of my greatest challenges to quiet down the voice that wants to tell me that someone is better or that I am better. I struggle with how certain people perceive me. And then the flip side are the people that I encounter that I judge and make assumptions about. If we could just allow people to show up and be who they are, what would be possible? Its so automatic that we judge and put people in little boxes. I don't know about you, but I don't want to fit in a box. I am a multifaceted human being as we all are.
We can sometimes be hardest on ourselves. I realize that the more I don't put you in a box the more I let myself out of my own box. And everyday I am feeling more empowered to be even more of myself, to take the lid off of my box. As I write I am giving the part of me that wants to express itself- a voice. I am tapping into my ability to be fearless. I want to share without compromise. I want to be a space for people to live outside of their box. I want to be a space for you to feel free.
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