Someone asked me, what my blog was about the other day? Interesting question because I don't feel that it's necessarily about what I am doing day to day. It's more a look at my journey in becoming a life coach and what it's bringing up for me. It's about trying to get somewhere. It's about the struggle with our own desire to be more or better, whatever the description is for wanting to be something else. We are so seldom just happy to be. There is always something over there that we are trying to get to. If we could just get over this hurdle than everything will be ok?!?
Our lives are a perpetual car race with occasional pit stops. What if you pulled out of the race? What if you went in a different direction? What if you just simply got out of the car, sat on the hood and sat back? What if you just took in your surroundings? Can you?
Just stop, stop your thoughts, stop your planning, stop your lists!!!!
I think there is a part of us that believes we will fall apart, like the stuff somehow holds us together. The stuff is as important and distracting as we have set it up to be. If we can detach from it and get over this false idea, there is something beautiful on the other side.
Someone once said to me that music is about the space between the notes. I thought that was beautiful and so true to life. If we pause, like now and just take a deep breath...............inhale.......................................................
exhale...........................................................
It snaps us out of our cycle of do do do. Space is such a beautiful thing. If you have space in your mind, you can think clearly. If you have a home that isn't filled up in every corner with stuff, you can breathe easier. If you have space in your relationships you can have the freedom to grow in them.
We get so afraid of space sometimes. Like space in conversations, we think every moment needs to be filled up with words. I think if you can really appreciate your space and respect someone else's you can have a more peaceful existence.
This blog for me is about maintaining a more peaceful existence. It's about diving into the parts of me and society that we don't easily talk about. We can read books and talk the talk but the bottom line is how do I show up in my own life? How do I make people feel? How do I handle difficult situations? How do I handle sadness? It's all part of being human and I have a choice every moment of every day whether I want to play out big or play it small. I don't always make the best choices but I do recognize when I am off center with myself. All I can do is work my way back and continue on.
I am grateful to have space, I am grateful for the relationships in my life that are supporting and nurturing this part of me and giving me the space to come out and be more myself.
So perfectly put into words Ash. Why is it that so many of us think that the grass is always greener on the other side, that if we just had that last piece of the puzzle our lives would be complete and we could finally exhale and enjoy life. I have been searching for that last piece and have found it so many times, only to look around and see that while I was focusing on that last piece of "my" puzzle, other pieces were lost in the process. For years, my theme of thoughts have been "If only".... I didn't have to work, if only I had more money, if only the kids were a little older, if only I was no longer in a miserable relationship...IF ONLY I had that last piece of the puzzle, I could (what?) What could I do? What's waiting for me after the puzzle is complete?
ReplyDeleteI want to breathe NOW. I want to enjoy every moment, NOW. I want to be more at peace and enjoy my kids, NOW. I want to finally throw that puzzle in the trash along with all of the "If onlys".
I now know that it's not about getting there, because I am already here. I'm still work in progress.
Ash, I am so grateful for you, and your insight. I am grateful for the path you are on which allows me to also see your view. I am grateful for your courage for I have grown as I listen and watch you. I am grateful, and I am blessed to call you my sister.
Keep writing.....I love you and I support you!
karin