the basics

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.

When life gets fuzzy and you don’t know where to turn, read the four agreements. It’s the basics. By reading these agreements you get to step back into a calm place. Realize that your word is who you create yourself to be. We sometimes speak so frivolously, thinking our words are meaningless. We speak in ways that are harmful. We speak to fill the void. If you speak in a respectful way not only to others but to yourself, what would show up in your life? If you do what you say you are going to do then life will be effortless. And if you fall short of your agreements than clean it up and move on. If we dislodge ourselves from the abuse that we give ourselves for not measuring up then maybe we can get somewhere. No one can cause more harm than we do to our own psyche.

If we take things personally then we get stuck on what someone thinks about us. For me I can get so spun out when I have all my attention outside of me. I feel hurt and taken advantage of or angry. All of these emotions are disempowering. All of these emotions take me off of my path and into a place of spinning out. I cannot control everything outside of me. I can only do my best and do what I say I am going to do. I cannot assume anything about anyone else or their actions. If I do- it is a set up to expect something. These are not easy habits to break. Yes, that’s what I called them…habits. These are learned behaviors. We were taught to take things personally and to make assumptions. But if you want real freedom in your life and no drama then stop making assumptions and stop taking things personally.

It really is a breath of fresh air when you don’t have to get caught up in drama. Life is amazing and exciting, live in that place. Let people be who they need to be. Do your best to keep on your side of the road and enjoy your experience. Life occurs differently to everyone and its your choice to make that mean something. You have the power to create anything you want, so DO IT!

Today I am grateful for Cecilia helping me not take things personally.