Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.
Wayne Dyer
I think it requires you to be alright with where you are to allow someone to be where they are without any expectations of what they should be doing. People are not put in our lives to satisfy us. We are the only ones that can satisfy us. I think we often forget this. We look outside of ourselves for people to please up and do as we think they should. Yea there are a lot of “shoulds” here.
I think you will find a much more peaceful existence when you can let go of your expectations. It’s not easy and definitely takes a lot of practice. If you think about it, how could you ever be happy if you are waiting for people to do and be what you need them to be? Isn’t it hard enough to get yourself to do what you need to do? If you want peace in your life than you must first accept everything as it is and everyone as they are. Yes just like they are right now. You can’t have any buts, I mean exactly as they are right now. It’s tough right because you think well if they just did this if or if they were able to….STOP right there. That’s the part of you that is never going to let you rest, never going to accept life as it is. We all have it. It’s being able to recognize it and make peace with it and hopefully let it go.
This isn’t easy but you are willing then loving someone right where they are will get easier. Today, I am grateful for my family.
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