Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.
Eckhart Tolle
You will never solve your problem by staring at your problem. But yet how many hours do you spend dissecting and re-enacting your problem? We have this belief that if we worry enough or look long enough we will solve it. The truth is that the only way to solve a problem is to step away from the heaviness of it. The life of a problem is prolonged and given so much more validity when we are staring at it and talking about it incessantly.
If you can step away and focus on what works in your life, then you can change your energy around the issue you are having. From there you can have space and freedom to have a new awareness about your problem. This is a difficult thing because we don’t want to leave our problem. And to be clear I am not saying ignore your problem. This will only create a bigger problem. I am saying that if you have something rolling around in your head that you are trying to solve or figure out---- then try leaving it alone for a bit.
If we get fixed on something then most likely there is no breathing room. The obsessive quality about a problem is never part of any solution it only adds more friction and discomfort. There is something to be said about not reacting to situations. Imagine being able to take in a potential problem and not labeling it immediately. If you could have clarity in this moment that something is coming at you that doesn’t feel good and not jump into a position, what would that be like?
I am challenging a way of being that seems so natural. Something happens and you react. Someone cuts you off so you get pissed. Someone says, “you are wrong” so you get defensive. Someone says, “you are no good”, so you believe it or you fight it. Someone says anything that hits you at your core and you immediately react based on whatever cord they just struck. My point is that we react so quickly that most of time we don’t even know how we really feel. Could you just add a pause in there? Just take that extra moment to breathe it in and not react to this external event that we make mean so much. Do you know what a difference that would make for you? It’s astounding how my life has changed just by making this shift. It’s a work in progress. It can be hard not to jump to respond. But just by taking that extra moment something happens where I can separate myself from the problem.
There is freedom is releasing worry. We don’t get anything from worry except anxiety and discomfort. So today I challenge you to put your worry aside and give breathing room to whatever problems you are dealing with…Be present today and enjoy what this day brings.
Today I am grateful for the many opportunities in my life.
Eckhart Tolle
You will never solve your problem by staring at your problem. But yet how many hours do you spend dissecting and re-enacting your problem? We have this belief that if we worry enough or look long enough we will solve it. The truth is that the only way to solve a problem is to step away from the heaviness of it. The life of a problem is prolonged and given so much more validity when we are staring at it and talking about it incessantly.
If you can step away and focus on what works in your life, then you can change your energy around the issue you are having. From there you can have space and freedom to have a new awareness about your problem. This is a difficult thing because we don’t want to leave our problem. And to be clear I am not saying ignore your problem. This will only create a bigger problem. I am saying that if you have something rolling around in your head that you are trying to solve or figure out---- then try leaving it alone for a bit.
If we get fixed on something then most likely there is no breathing room. The obsessive quality about a problem is never part of any solution it only adds more friction and discomfort. There is something to be said about not reacting to situations. Imagine being able to take in a potential problem and not labeling it immediately. If you could have clarity in this moment that something is coming at you that doesn’t feel good and not jump into a position, what would that be like?
I am challenging a way of being that seems so natural. Something happens and you react. Someone cuts you off so you get pissed. Someone says, “you are wrong” so you get defensive. Someone says, “you are no good”, so you believe it or you fight it. Someone says anything that hits you at your core and you immediately react based on whatever cord they just struck. My point is that we react so quickly that most of time we don’t even know how we really feel. Could you just add a pause in there? Just take that extra moment to breathe it in and not react to this external event that we make mean so much. Do you know what a difference that would make for you? It’s astounding how my life has changed just by making this shift. It’s a work in progress. It can be hard not to jump to respond. But just by taking that extra moment something happens where I can separate myself from the problem.
There is freedom is releasing worry. We don’t get anything from worry except anxiety and discomfort. So today I challenge you to put your worry aside and give breathing room to whatever problems you are dealing with…Be present today and enjoy what this day brings.
Today I am grateful for the many opportunities in my life.
Totally agree. There was a time in my life when I would literally spend night after night worrying about my two older kids. ... then one day I decided that no amount of worrying, no amount of tears, and no amount of guilty feelings about what I did wrong was going to change anything. You know what? it made all the difference in the world. Thanks for sharing Ashley.
ReplyDeleteToday, I will stop worrying about my troubles. Not think about tomorrow, until tomorrow. Then do it all over again. One day at a time. thanks Ashley.
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