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To be aware of a single shortcoming in oneself is more useful than to be aware of a thousand in someone else.

The Dalai Lama

No matter how many faults you find in someone, your life has not gotten any better by the discovery. It’s a trap we all fall in to. Really, what someone else is doing in their life is none of our business. We are here to live our own lives. The more you can be attuned to that and let go of the need to judge, the more you life will blossom. So much time is wasted on trying to fix or change someone else. Do you really believe that you are being productive by your obsessions? It’s mind chatter and more important it’s a distraction from ourselves. It’s always easier to focus on someone else. It’s easier to make someone else wrong rather than acknowledge our part. And know that you always have a part. We like to place responsibility on everyone else but the truth is that if you are alive and breathing you have a part.

Are you ready to be really honest with yourself? That’s what it takes if you want true freedom in your life. If what you say you want and what you have are on completely different playing fields then the answer is first honesty. It was easy to look outside of yourself and find reason to explain why you are where you are. Now what if there is nothing or no one to put that responsibility on except you? I mean no one. What if you accepted the life you have because it’s the life you have. The drama and the stories we want to tell do not support a peaceful future. So why do we keep telling them? I believe its fear of the unknown. In a twisted way we are comfortable with our drama, it gives us a sense of having something. But it also prevents us from having a life that we love.

Today I challenge you to choose not to participate in the gossip around you. I challenge you to tell the truth to yourself. I challenge you to tend to your own life.

Today I am grateful for the opportunity to help others.