taking responsibility

If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally. If you want to take responsibility for your life, you must choose one of those three options, and you must choose now. Then accept the consequences. No excuses. No negativity. No psychic pollution. Keep your inner space clear. Eckhart Tolle

And it is that simple. You can choose right now to accept your present situation or change it. So why does it seem so much more difficult than that? We live in the struggle of something for so long, much longer than we need to. Maybe because we are afraid of what will happen or maybe because we are afraid to admit something. There are many reasons why we stay in a present that feels like prison. Sometimes it’s good to look at a situation and break it down to those three options: “remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally.” It sure is clean on paper. But when we apply it to our lives it seems so much heavier. Why is that? I think because we are very dramatic. We live in a dramatic society. I mean look at Tiger Woods and the media frenzy. Is that any of my business and does my opinion matter? No, yet there is the need out there to make a story and keep it alive. I think that’s we do- we want to keep our stories alive because somehow that makes us feel that we exist. We are so used to that, we accept it as normal.

In your personal life do you ever get caught up in conversations that feel like they are sucking the life out of you? I like to call it being “thrown up” on. Maybe not the most gentle of descriptions but there is no other way that comes to mind to describe when someone wants to just blah all over you. I have come to learn that “throwing up” and venting are two different things. “Throwing up” is just to gain momentum to keep the insanity going, venting is part of a process to let go. This is important to think about because we are constantly playing both roles as the listener and as the speaker. Take note when you are just wanting to blah blah blah with no intention of letting go of what your upset about and when you need to just get it all out so that you can let go of it. I know that when something happens that is upsetting to you the last thing you are thinking about is letting it go. You want to be right and you want to make your case why you have been wronged. I get that and at some point letting go is the only way to have peace.

So I recommend having someone that you can vent to, someone that you can call and say it all to and then move on. It’s best to have a time limit so that you can let it rip and when time is up, time is up. Maybe you will need a few venting times but the point is it’s a determined amount of time to just get it all out. The key is to have someone that you can call that won’t try to fix you or the situation. Your venting time is your time to say it all without keeping it nice and neat.

Your present situation can run your life or can be a part of your life. You are choosing every moment how you want to live. Whether conscious or unconscious your making choices. My hope for you is that you start to be conscious of the decisions you are making and stop putting off your life that you will live someday. Someday is today, so start now and take responsibility for your life. You can have a life that you love. You have to believe it first!

Today I am grateful for my clients who have so much faith in me. I am humbled and honored.

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